Dealing With a Best Friend Becoming Distant
1.) ACCEPTANCE
I get how you are feeling about a close friend of yours becoming distant.
Since I was a little child, there have been many instances when I have had to bid goodbye to close friends because they moved to different cities, schools, or even different countries.
It's an incredibly painful experience.
Nonetheless, does that mean you shouldn't be able to move on in life nicely?
You still need to strive, regardless of if your friend is around you or not.
If your friendship was mutual and not one-sided, your best friend would also be experiencing similar emotions.
People often feel that way at first, but things improve significantly over time.
Yes, even if you can contact each other through social media and advanced technology, it is true that you won't be able to engage as much as you would like since you will be too busy with your own lives.
Their time spent living near you will never be the same.
You still have to come to terms with it.
After feeling upset by strong emotions and remembering your happiest times together, you'll be alright eventually.
You will gradually be able to accept it better.
This period of sadness will eventually come to an end, and if your friendship was genuine, you two will be able to continue living your lives to the fullest without losing the connection and friendship you once shared, even if it has been a long time.
2.) REPLACEMENT
This may sound surprising, but it is the truth.
Your best friends need to be replaced.
As time passes, we make new friends. Obviously, we don't intend to replace our best friends who are becoming distant, but it happens naturally.
You'll start to get closer to friends who are nearby you, especially if they share mutual respect, compassion, qualities, and loyalty to you, rather than the best friends who are becoming distant.
However, this does not imply that you have lost all connection and bond with your best friend, who is becoming distant now.
I can guarantee you that if you were truly best friends, as you claim, even if you met after many years, you would bond in the same way you did when you were nearby one another.
So, when I say replace, I mean finding new friends with whom you can interact more frequently than your best friends, who are becoming distant.
This way, you won't feel lonely, and your memories of your best friend, who is now distant, won't bother you as much, making you feel extra emotional from time to time, without forgetting all the best moments you had with them.
3.) SELF-RELIANCE
Last but not least, you must continue to do everything that's required to ensure your survival.
Whether or not your best friend is nearby, you must continue to work on yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, professionally/academically, and financially.
You have to find new hobbies and activities outside of work to keep your mind from continuously being reminded of your best friend, who is now distant.
I understand that your best friend, who is now distant, may have helped you feel better, made you laugh and smile a little, and talked and listened to you in your spare time, but that will not happen anymore.
Therefore, you must find ways to become more self-reliant in order to feel internal satisfaction.
What can your distant best friend do to cheer you up when they aren't even nearby?
You wouldn't want to burden them to gain happiness, right?
