Do You Love Out of Deprivation?
The Surefire Way To Sabotage Love
It’s normal to want a connection. On some level, we all do. It’s written into our very nature. Without love, I’d argue would we be here today?
For many of us, love is a goal. It’s the thing we strive for. We want to feel loved, and to love, and we want to feel valued by another. But what happens when we place love on too high of a pedestal? What happens when we use love as a means to value ourselves?
A large part of my personal growth has been shedding the beliefs I’d constructed around love and how I related to it. I use to approach love from a state of deprivation rather than wholeness. I use to see it as something that would complete me rather than something that would add to my completeness.
There are several reasons why approaching love with this mentality is detrimental — and I wanted to speak about them today. What does it mean to love out of deprivation, and how can we identify this in our lives?
Loving From Deprivation
To live in a state of deprivation means to be living without something we feel like we need. In order to love out of deprivation, we have to feel a sense of emptiness without it — and want it desperately.
