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Don’t Try to Change Yourself
Instead, only try to realize the truth. “There is no spoon”.
Why didn’t I see this before?
I’ve experienced a few breakthroughs and major transformations in my life, and they all happened very quickly, like turning switches on and off. I didn’t have to go through weeks of hard work until my habits stuck.
They all felt similar, yet I didn’t grasp the pattern for a long time. Changing isn’t difficult once you are aware of the illusions!
My fears were unconscious decisions
One significant breakthrough was getting rid of my life-long fear of cats in my late 20s. When a friend challenged me, I decided to take a deep breath and allow his cat to scratch my arms.
The fear disappeared in an instant. I didn’t know how it happened and thought about that moment a lot for years.
My other big fear was driving. It was part of my identity all my life. But in New Zealand suburbs, I found that I couldn’t function as an adult if I resisted driving.
It was a major struggle. And one day, as I had an internal battle whether to drive or not, I had another breakthrough. There was a voice in my mind that actively sabotaged my attempts to drive. I was in a trap that I had created…
