Feeling Good Isn’t Wrong
And acting like a martyr isn’t right either
Comfort is part of life. It’s good to feel good, and you deserve to feel good.
Like anything however, too much of comfort becomes a prison.
When we live by comfort, it becomes a need.
Life isn’t always comfortable though.
Relying on comfort in times of challenges can help us cope. But it does not fix the underlying issues. I believe we know this. Instead, comfort buys us time; the time to prepare for the fight.
If we still choose to use comfort to answer life’s call — we find out that we demand more and more comfort to get through life, leaving behind us a long list of “problems” that need our attention.
At a certain point, it does not matter how much comfort we soak in — something feels wrong, and there’s no way around it.
That’s when we need to be honest with ourselves. Our attention is needed. We need ourselves.
To answer life’s call, the opposite of comfort isn’t the answer either.
Some people live by discomfort. The more they do, the more pride they take in doing so. That too is a trap.
Instead, as with most of life’s riddles — balance is key.
Do not deprive yourself of your need to feel good and reassured. And do not live in pain because being a martyr makes you feel greater than others.
At times, the answer to your problems may be a piece of chocolate cake, some rest, or a hug. At others, it may be sitting with your “demons,” crying and confronting your deeper fears.
What you choose to do at any given moment largely depends on your experience in learning to juggle between both. The more you practice, the more it becomes second-nature.
Give yourself the time to notice your patterns, and iterate.
Best of luck.
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