Jul 22, 2022
How Mastering My Mindset Changed My Life
My journey from being a victim of domestic violence to a self-made entrepreneur.
Looking back at my life just a couple of years ago, I barely recognize myself. I am still impressed with my drastic change and transformation, from being a helpless and depressed broken young woman, to a successful entrepreneur helping others to change their lives.
I am not writing this article to brag, but to give hope to others who are facing adverse situations in their lives. When darkness engulfs your entire being, it can be difficult to see the light. But if I was able to change my life around, so can you.
So how did I manage to make this powerful change? The answer is simple really — I changed my mindset.
Mindset refers to our set of beliefs, attitudes, and approach towards life. At some point in my life, even though I was not fully aware of it, I believed that I was unworthy of love. I sought validation from others, and no matter how hard I tried to please others, I never felt good enough.
I ended up in a relationship with a narcissistic person and I suffered from domestic violence for five years. And guess what? When this person told me that I was useless and unworthy of his respect, I believed him. When this person asked me to point out my skills and positive qualities, I stuttered and struggled to point them out.
I was so caught up trying to earn his respect and validation that I didn’t even realize how inappropriate and abusive these conversations were. Instead of distancing myself from this person who made me feel useless and unworthy, I got stuck in a loop trying to win his approval.
After five years of gaslighting and emotional abuse, I decided to start working on myself by addressing the relationship I had with myself and my mindset. Life has taught me that whatever you decide to believe, will be reflected in your reality. Your reality is like a mirror of your beliefs and life choices.
“Whether you believe that you can, or you can’t you’re right” — Henry Ford.
At some point in my life, I thought that was incapable of writing — 3 year later, I just finished writing a book and I’m waiting for it to be published. I publish articles in several publications, and I have over 50 blog posts on my personal website.
Up to a few years ago, I thought that I was incapable of taking care of myself, and I was terrified of traveling alone — I have now travelled to several cities alone, and I moved from Europe to Indonesia to start a new chapter in life.
I believed that I was not able to be self-reliant, and that I needed a knight in shining armor to come save me and make me feel whole and complete. Instead of feeding into this belief, I worked hard on improving the relationship with myself and I started dating myself to fall in love with who I truly am.
The journey was challenging, scary, yet extremely liberating. Throughout these challenging situations, I proved to myself that whatever I chose to believe about myself, would show up in my reality.
When I believed that I needed others to feel good about myself, that was exactly what my life looked like. When I believed that I needed to work in an international corporate company to make a living, that was exactly what the universe matched me up with.
And when I decided to believe that I could become an independent woman who could open her own business while fulfilling her life’s purpose, that was exactly what life gave me.
