How To Deliberately Think

Even when life is hectic, a writer finds freedom in journals, quotes, and the life experiences of creatives in times past.

The art of quiet introspection passes unnoticed by people who rush from job to home. The routine activities of the day overcrowd the quiet time to reflect on a life lived with deliberate focus. Work, career, college, children, spouses, partners, and friends all demand time from individuals who, at best keep on the move.

They fall into bed, exhausted, sometimes they toss and turn, before they enter a restless sleep. They wake with the same determination to succeed, preparation to go without self-care erodes even the most stalwart figure.

At times, life becomes stifled with stress. The car breaks down; an unexpected expense of a thousand dollars bears the weight on an already fragile budget. Life choices create havoc for relationships. Disagreements over time-management create even more strain.

— Relationships fracture under pressure.

To safe-guard the relationship means to take the time to deliberately think of how you respond or react in various situations. If we stop and look at the historical approach to members of different societies and see how they overcame obstacles, we can begin to apply the techniques into our lives.

Past writer’s wisdom

When we take the time to explore the history of over-comers, we become familiar with their power. Growth and courage develop from the deliberate mirror-like activities we emulate.

In his book Still is the Key, Ryan Holiday shares a quote from Mr. Rogers, which inspired this writing. In it, he shares, “Just think, he wrote to a struggling friend, “Just be quiet and think. It’ll make all the difference in the world.”

Often, we attribute the word think with an overactive mind, which does not shut down. True enough, the mind can become stuck in rumination and revenge patterns of negativity.

The way Mr. Rogers encouraged one to think is based on logic and reflection. Breathe, release, and think all walk together to form a calm sense of self in moments of duress and stress.

Another quote, from the same book, stopped me in my tracks.

In the quote, Anne Frank writes, “Paper has more patience than people.”

The powerful concept here, makes sense to writers. The paper, or white document, flows with the creative mind of the one in control of the keys or pen.

Movement of thought cascades upon the paper, sentence after sentence, sometimes sense is made and at other times, nonsense ensues. Whichever the case, the writer creates the story, the article, the blog, or the poem from their inner person.

Often, writers come across ideas, quickly jot them down, and then move on to another article. When they return to the idea, they have forgotten the gist of the thought and have to recreate the concept from scratch. If a writer stops and meditates upon the words they wrote, the internal processes may bring back the initial memory.

— Stop the pressure to perform and use the time to think.

The use of a journal increases a person’s well-being and builds a safe place to release exploration of emotions, often following a traumatic event.

Ryan Holiday examines Anne Frank’s passion in her use of the journal as a confidant. A journal was her place where she wrote down her inner thoughts and emotions, so she would be able to process her life cramped in the attic spaces.

Our mind is our friend, when we give it space to create and expand.

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Instead of carrying baggage around in our heads or hearts, we put it down on paper (Holiday, 2019).

The benefits outway the costs.

A small homemade journal is just as effective as a Barnes & Nobles journal. The concept is to write down the thoughts, to capture the emotions, to channel the energy into a resource for freedom.

The written word teaches us to gain self-awareness. We can take from the pages of writers past, and learn from their mistakes, gather warmth from the coldness they felt in the world, and build a strong writer’s foundation.

Writers, walkers of faith, and leaders who successfully built a foundation did so to leave a trail for all who walked after they left the scene of life. Each journeyed onward to the destination, as they embraced each teacher who crossed their path.

To grow as a writer one needs to research the writers in the past and seek to understand what moved them to create. Whether the desire was a burning need or if it was a collective expression of the joy of creation, the writer who learns from others, grows.

Stillness, quietude, peace, and mindfulness play a role in the development of a writer’s subconscious. To learn, we need only to stop long enough to catch the reasons why we think the way we do, to redirect our thoughts when they have wandered away, and to direct the calm state of awareness.

— A quiet soul is one who is open to hear.

— A writer’s growth sprouts, when they water the peace inside.

To deliberately think, we take ownership of the thoughts as they pass through our mind. We give the thoughts direction. We lead the thoughts like waves in the ocean, to the shore of the world, where words and wisdom intersect.

~Just a thought by Pamela

Thank you for reading.

About Me: •♥•Pamela J. Nikodem, MS is a writer and educator working on an internship at Roger’s Behavioral Health, guiding those who struggle with mental health and addictive behaviors. Pamela also works with men, mandated to Domestic Violence education to prevent further victimization of men, women, and children. In 2020, she begins teaching violin again. •♥•©

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❤ Positive-focused Motivational Speaker ❤ Writer ❤ Domestic Violence Educator @ www.advancedbehavioralchanges.org ❤ Catch the Spark❤ Lead others to find peace.

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