Is Casual Sex Fun or Self Harming?
It’s Critical We Are Aware of Our Relationship to Casual Sex
Over the years I’ve had my fair share of casual sex, to say the least.
Growing up gay but in the closet, the only way I could relieve some of my sexual frustration was through secret hookups that amounted to nothing.
Instead, sex served a purpose to provide temporarily relief but long-term pain in the form of after-sex shame, disgust, that compounded my desire to hide away.
Now an adult, and accepting of his sexuality, I find myself in a culture that is easier to have sex within than ever. I have straight friends who often complain that apps like Tinder often lead to sexual encounters, rather than dates. Even if dates happen, sex is prioritised quickly, to sometime detrimental effect.
In the gay community we have an app called Grindr whose sole purpose is finding people to have casual sex with. Tinder gets a bad rep for being full of uncommitted people, but imagine an app targeted directly at sex.
It’s wild, and potentially damaging for some of us.
This isn’t an article directly to the gay community however, though I will touch on some of it’s relations, but a discussion on casual sex as a whole.
