It’s Time to Stop Looking at the Closed Doors Behind You

Your happiness is in front of you.


“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller

Life is full of transitions. From the day we’re born to the day we die, life seems broken down into chapters.

There are the carefree early childhood days, awkward adolescence, and high school. Possibly college. Our 20s. Our 30s. Our 40s…..

Friendships, relationships, marriages, young children, grown children, births, deaths, careers.

You name it, there are hundreds of compartmentalized phases and events that can represent who we are at a particular time in our lives.

These phases and events all weave together to bring us our lives.

Things are always shifting and changing. Change is the nature of life.

The danger lies in letting a chapter define or determine who we are and whether or not we’re happy and content.

When we associate our happiness with these chapters, we’re constantly at risk of losing our happiness when things change.

And change they will, it’s inevitable.

The number one topic that clients come to me for is navigating life’s transitions.

Graduation, career changes, divorce, children leaving the nest, and loss of a spouse are nearly universal experiences.

They leave a lot of people feeling lost, unsure how to move forward in a positive way, or plain old stuck and discontent.

I’ve been going through a bit of this myself lately. My sons have grown and moved out of the house. While this is a really exciting and fun time in my life, I find myself feeling sad for missing them.

Physician, heal thyself.

Medice, cura te ipsum

It’s one thing to know all the right steps, and it’s another to put them into practice.

As I coach myself through this transition in my life, I’ll share my thoughts with you too.

Some chapters of our lives are destined to come to an end. There’s no fighting it.

Those doors will close, but new chapters are always beginning.

It’s ok to occasionally glimpse at the closed doors of past chapters and smile fondly at them, but everything life has to offer is in front of us.

New doors of happiness are waiting to be opened, but we can’t even see them if we keep gazing at the closed doors behind us.

Think of what’s behind those closed doors as rooms in a glorious mansion. The mansion has an infinite number of doors and rooms, and you get to explore every one of them.

Be grateful for those closed chapters and reach forward with curiosity and excitement to open that next door.

“Going by my past journey, I am not certain where life will take me, what turns and twists will happen; nobody knows where they will end up. As life changes direction, I’ll flow with it.” — Katrina Kaif

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