Key Growth Areas for the Avoidant Attachment Style
Avoidant individuals have reaped somewhat of a bad name over the years. They’re the villain in many romantic stories — unable to commit or hold space for their open and willing counterparts.
And whilst I don’t object to any of the pain an avoidant individual can cause when pushing people who love them away, we have to recognize that avoidant individuals — just like their anxious counterparts — are that way for a reason.
Being able to see their problems as indicative of the pain they experienced as children not only allows us to approach THEM with more care and love — but also shed some of the pain WE may feel when hurt by them. Their avoidant actions aren’t so much of a reflection of our lacking but their trauma.
With that being said, why are avoidant people the way they are, and if this article relates to you, how can you work to become more secure in your partnerships?
The Origins Of Avoidant Attachment Styles
Avoidant individuals at their core fear emotional connection and it’s in the deepening of romantic connection, where the emotional connection becomes increasingly important, that avoidant traits rear their ugly heads.
Initially, they may appear interested or pursue you but push you away as…
