Learn to Fight Healthily With Your Partner
Use these psychological theories to have healthier fights in your relationships.
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” (Groucho Marx)
Fighting is inevitable. Let’s start with that. Fighting with your partner during your relationship is avoidable but bound to happen. John Gottman, a pioneer in research into relationships, states conflicts might even be a good thing. It is a sign of honesty and an opportunity for communication for fixing issues. Only when done properly though.
Avoid The Four Horsemen of The Apocalypse
When I conducted my research, I gathered that communication is everything. I italicised that. That’s how important effective communication is. John Gottman’s work highlights communication as well. Here’s what we can learn from his work.
- Criticism: Don’t fuel the attack by attacking the other’s character. Not only is this counterproductive, but it is also something you tend to regret after the words are out.
✖ “What is wrong with you?”
✓ “What do you feel?”
2. Contempt: Acting disrespectfully or with superiority isn’t going to make you win this fight. Winning…
