Meet The Mind-Care Trends That Will Improve Your Mood This Spring

Your weekly roundup of Mental Health + Motherhood + Fashion + Identity

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Welcome to The Roundup, a Monday series featuring THE BEST OF in Mental Health + Motherhood + Fashion + Identity.

It’s Monday again. A brand new week to be our brilliant, badass, and resilient selves. Feels good, yes? How we begin our week is telling of how our week will turn out. So if you hit snooze this morning, don’t do it again for the rest of the week. And if you woke up when you wanted to, set your intentions for the day, and got a good sweat in, GOOD FOR YOU. Keep her up.

Here is this week’s roundup.

Mental Health

Brought to you by the brilliant minds of Women’s Health Magazine, here are 4 mental wellness tips you can begin practicing today. The best part? They are practical, and perhaps even better than that, they are underwhelming.

  1. Make a Bliss List:Write down all the activities, people, and things that bring you joy. Create a real hard-copy list with pen and paper or use the notes app on your phone. Try to remember to refresh it often.”
  2. Check in with yourself: Make time to review this list in a quiet spot once a week. It’s a nice baseline to see how many smile-making activities you’re doing regularly and what you can add for more feel-good days.”
  3. Shout your gratitude: Let people actually know you are grateful for them (it’ll benefit you too). Tell them out loud, send a text or handwritten note, or write a glowing review. Counting your blessings has a positive effect on your emotional well-being, per research.”
  4. Commit to therapy: Industry leaders like Talkspace saw a 65 percent increase in the first month of lockdown, and the latest apps offer additional aid. BetterHelp uses a quiz to connect you with an expert. Larkr taps algorithms to pair you with a therapist based on personalized info. And Supportiv puts you in a small group with a moderator based on your specific struggle.

Motherhood

Feeling guilty for snapping at your kid? You’re definitely not alone. We have to remember that we have a breaking point, too. There is only so much interruption (and that god-awful whining) that we can handle in a day. It’s easy to feel bad about yelling at your kids — obviously we don’t want to make them feel sad or hurt — but it happens.

What’s important is how you handle your snapping afterwards. What to do after you lose your cool? Acknowledge your mistake, give yourself a time out, and remember that kids struggle with impulse control.

This article explains it all, focusing on how to apologize to your kids. Here’s a snippet from Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at George Washington University School of Medicine:

“The first thing to know is that all parents snap at their children, and doing so from time to time doesn’t make you a good parent or a bad one. It’s just a fact of life.”

And another from Jennie Hudson, a professor of clinical psychology at the University of New South Wales in Australia:

“Raising your voice or losing your cool from time to time? That’s inevitable because we are human. There is this kind of expectation that children should be protected from feeling any negative emotion. But that’s toxic positivity. It’s not normal; it’s not OK. We have a range of emotions that include feeling frustrated, anxious and worried.”

Fashion

With the shift in seasons comes getting dressed anxiety. It happens to the best of us (and even the most stylish of us). I’m determined to build my business model on this very frustration that exists during the in-between seasons when it comes to outfitting ourselves. I will let you know when it has been perfected.

Why do we forget how to dress the moment the temperature rises? (or drops). The answer: Change paralyzes us, making us second-guess a simple decision like what to wear on a 60-degree day.

This article has nailed dressing for Spring this year: 8 Spring Outfit Ideas For 2021. While the products themselves aren’t exactly affordable, you can create the look for less with brands like Free People and Anthropologie, and stores like Target and Marshalls. Happy shopping!

Photo by Hean Prinsloo on Unsplash

Identity

Do you still equate success with money? It isn’t wrong, but I think it’s high time we begin normalizing equating success with other things that fulfill us — like maintaining healthy + happy relationships, and being proud of the work we create, and feeling awesome about how we look + feel + pursue our passions every day.

This article from Arianna Huffington, The Most Important Indicators of Success Have Nothing To Do With Money — And I Thank My Mom for Teaching Me That, is laden with endearing advice on lifelong habits to adopt.

Here’s a sneak peak from the post:

“When I was 15, I remember coming home from school one day and excitedly telling you about seeing a photo in a magazine of Cambridge University. The photo made a deep impression on me, and I announced that this is where I wanted to go to school. Instead of laughing at me, as everyone else did in the days that followed, your reaction was: let’s make it happen. Though we had no money, and I didn’t speak English at the time, you solved both problems at once by selling what little jewelry you had so I could take English classes. Then you researched everything about the entrance exams I’d need to take, along with information about scholarships. And in the end, you did make it happen, through your sheer determination and belief that anything is possible.”

Related-To-Mind-Care Note

This week’s productivity tip: Write out your to-do list by hand.

I learned this gem-of-a-tip from an interview with my new fave podcast, Off The Gram (highly recommend, ps). Writing things down the good old fashioned way, hello pen and paper, helps you remember better. And it’s a calming, yet motivating way to begin your day.

Thank you for reading today!

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Be you.

Xo, Ash

Ashley is a writer based in Connecticut, currently working on a memoir focusing on the motherhood identity crisis. She is an advocate for mental health, on a hard mission to show people the incredible power that dressing up has on your mindset.

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Ashley Alt

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Life is better when we laugh. I write about the importance of mental health & believe our weirdness is what makes us great. https://ashleyalt.substack.com/