It’s Time You Increase Your Self Worth

Instead of your net worth

Baqsam Behbehani
Change Your Mind Change Your Life
4 min readJul 22, 2021


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One of the first key phrases you will often find after a celebrity’s name when you Google him or her is “net worth”. However, seldom do we look up “self worth”, specifically how to increase our self worth. While net worth is a part of self worth, there are other aspects that are in dire need of addressing.

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Ingredients of Self Worth

Feeling content

You were not brought into this world by choice, so you are not obliged to act a certain way. We just hope that you exercise your freedom without disturbing other sentient beings. In other words, you are expected to be ethical.

Besides that, no one can tell you what you need to do in order to be considered valuable. You were brought into this world by force, and the least you can do to compensate for that forceful entry is to simply be yourself.

Contributing to society

One of the focal points of Dale Carnegie’s bestselling book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, is about feeling important. While Carnegie’s emphasis was on making others feel important to win them over, you can apply his teachings to yourself.

One of the easiest ways to feel that you are valuable in society is by contributing to it. However, the actual contribution part may be a challenge when executed, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking only doctors, engineers, and so on are valuable.

Your goal in life may be to make video game controllers. You are helping people enjoy a hobby that can strengthen their mental ability, relax, have fun, and potentially socialize with others. Again, you’re not obliged to be anything specific, so leave medicine and engineering for the passionate.

Medicine and engineering have their value, and the gaming industry has its value. The list goes on.

Nourishing your body

If you value your body, you know that there are two primary components, with the other being the mind. Your body simply needs good food, exercise, and sleep. As for your mind, you can nourish it with knowledge as well as surrounding yourself with people who are worth it.

Maintaining a positive social life

While some are more resilient than others, some people can kill your self esteem, and they are the ones to avoid. No, don’t shy away from those who provide criticism as long as it is constructive. Others simply want to bash you for the sake it. Avoid those who do the following:

  • They only pretend to listen to what you have to say.
  • They ditch you when better plans come up.
  • They ask you for help but never repay the favor.

Also, being promiscuous can be perceived as making you disposable, almost like trash, which you are not. What you find outside in the dumpster is stuff that is simply of no value, so it is usually used one time and thrown outside.

The eternal trashing of your self worth that may follow five seconds of pleasure is not worth it. You are worth long term intimacy; it’s just that you may not click with everyone, and short term pleasure is not the answer.

Living lavishly

The idea is not to wear brands, live in a mansion, and ride a Lambo to impress others. The idea is to make you feel better among other things.

When it comes to clothes, brands usually mean higher quality. To make sure you are not wearing bands to be flashy, take off or hide the logos. You can take your clothes to a tailor to place a stylish patch on a brand’s letters.

As for living, stay in a place that’s big enough for your comfort but not big only to impress.

When it comes to cars, pick a nice and big car. You are beautiful and deserve an equally beautiful car that’s not there to impress others but to add another beautiful sight to the street. As for its size, a bigger car is usually a safer car, and because you are worth it, we need you safe and sound.

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Needless to say, none of the above is mandatory. You can have extremely high self worth without having a big car because not everyone likes such cars.

The moral of the story is to ask yourself whether or not you are meeting your own standards of self worth and adjust from there. To recap, consider your:

  • Arbitrary existence
  • Contributions to society
  • Bodily nourishment
  • Social life
  • Luxuries

Do any need tweaking?

You be the judge.