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Stop Losing Yourself and Causing Yourself Harm
Self-Abandonment: How life Sets Us For Addiction, Bad Relationships, and Unfulfillment.
This week I’ve been reflecting on the nicotine addiction I recently kicked and how I allowed it to take over my life this past year.
The conclusion I came to?
Self-abandonment.
I knew it wasn’t good for me, and I kept doing it. I prioritized short-term reward over my long-term health until it caused me more problems than it did solutions.
This is not my first rodeo losing myself, either.
I’ve lost myself in relationships, in hobbies, in work, and in substance.
I’m prone to self-abandonment, you see. I lose myself easily, which is what I wanted to talk about today:
What are the origins of self-abandonment?
Why is it we can lose ourselves so easily?
And how can we come home to ourselves when the world is trying to pull us away?
The Origins of Self-Abandonment
Ideally, as we grow from toddlers to preschoolers to teenagers we’ll gain confidence in our independence as a whole, worthy being — but this process is easily disrupted.
