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The One Thing You Probably Don’t Want to Hear About Healing
When you’re trying to heal you have to let go of something.
A lot of people aren’t ready to hear what I’m about to say. Healing is hard and many of us are stubborn about what we need to heal. People want to keep the past with them while simultaneously carrying around wishes for life to be different.
They want to grasp tightly to something that is fading or gone — hoping for it to return. Or, they want their previous life to continue the way it was without making any real change, grieving constantly about the past trauma they’ve experienced, becoming a victim to others or circumstances.
Carrying the past with you is a big burden. Healing requires something to be left behind. Part of you must die in order to go forward in your life so that something new can grow within you. And victimhood does nobody any favors.
In addition, most people never want to admit that the root of their problems lies within them. The human ego loves to blame others and to look outside the self for solutions. Inner change is very hard for most people to create. But for anyone on a spiritual healing journey, it becomes obvious quite quickly that a shift within the self is paramount.
