There Is Help for the Chronically Late

Strategies that will keep you on time….

Rosa Diaz-Casal
Change Your Mind Change Your Life
3 min readJun 18, 2024


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How often do you arrive late to an appointment? When you do, how is it received? How do you feel about other people’s tardiness?

I met a friend for dinner and, although she showed up late, I complimented her on how good her hair smelled. I then learned that it wasn’t what she used on her hair — it was when. Of course it smelled good, she said she had washed it, like, 20 minutes ago!

She explained that she is a person who, for much of her adult life, about the moment other people would be arriving at an appointment or commitment, she would be stepping out of the shower, finishing up an email or ironing what she intended to wear.

She never knew what it was like to be the one who, like me, was the one waiting for the other party to arrive. She was always the one who would show up and the table would be ready, the event under way, or the show almost over.

Her friends were patient and were not willing to take her excuses (so much traffic, the babysitter was late) as a friendship deal-breaker.

She mentioned her kids have been stuck shivering in January as they waited outside for her to pick them up from school. They also had to deal with getting home from school only to find the house locked…