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Triggers, Confusion and Self-Sabotage: Understanding the Trauma Links
How Trauma Leads Us Into Self-Sabotage
Relationship trauma experienced in our past, particularly during our developmental years can lead to complex and difficult-to-understand consequences in adulthood.
Our brains are wired to react in response to what it has known, so it’s no surprise that relationship trauma will impact how we show up and navigate relationships as adults.
In fact, if you’re like me at all, you might feel like you have your life together until you start dating or end up in a committed relationship: Then you get triggered, and the old is brought back anew.
The Cost of Unawareness
When we’re not aware that our relationships are triggering us, we leave ourselves open to acting in ways that risk us sabotaging the secure relationships in our life, or stopping secure relationships from developing (like choosing and chasing “almost people”, as I’ve talked about before).
Today I wanted to talk about the complex interplay of trauma, emotion, and self-sabotage. Understanding the mechanisms by which trauma leads to sabotage is imperative for rewiring our approach to love.
