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What Happens to the Children Who Were Told They Are Dumb
What do you think about yourself to be true that didn’t come from you?
I will go first. I always thought that I was dumb. In fact, not just thought but believed it as a fact. I had a belief that some people are smart and some are like me, dumb — born to hide themselves under the rock of shame and inferiority.
And yet….
For almost 21 years of my life, I tried to force myself to dream big, and work harder than anyone else so I could finally achieve something bigger than the rock I was hiding behind — so I could show the world that I wasn’t dumb.
Everything I did was a result of two things:
a) It has to be easy so a dumb person like me can do it,
b) It has to be big so a dumb person like me could prove that I was actually smart.
Imagine, if it reads so confusing then how daunting it must have been to live your life constantly trying to be good enough for others whilst gulping down the realization of not being good enough. Just thinking about the mixed emotions, fear, and confusion I imposed on myself gives me a headache.
Where Does It Lead You Then?
How do you decide if what you want is really what YOU want?
