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What if Avoidants Are Only Avoidant With the Wrong People?
An attachment issue or simply being selective with who they connect?
My whole life I have been dealing with an avoidant attachment style. It was always hard for me to truly connect with others or let love in. And once I got into a relationship, I pushed it away and was longing for my freedom. I have done numerous assessments, talked to past partners, and recognized myself completely as being avoidantly attached.
But what exactly is an avoidant attachment style? And is it always connected to a certain upbringing or childhood? Do you need to heal your attachment wounds? Or perhaps your body is just trying to warn you for something that is not aligned with you.
Avoidant attachment develops in children who do not experience sensitive responses from a parent or caregiver to their needs or distress. Children with avoidant attachment may become very independent, both physically and emotionally. — Medical News today
According to the main narrative, your attachment style is configured in your childhood years. If your parent was absent, did not emotionally engage, or was overly critical, you most likely developed an avoidant attachment style. There are other attachment styles too, but for the sake of this article, I will only discuss…
