Why Are Women Dumber Than Men
Who do you think has higher self-esteem, men or women?
Wiebke Bleidorn, an author and PhD, of the University of California did an interesting research. Bleidorn and her colleagues analyzed survey data from over 985,000 men and women ages 16–45 from 48 countries. The researchers compared self-reported self-esteem, gender, and age across the 48 nations in their study.
Guess what the findings of that research were?
“During the past two decades, a large number of studies on age and gender differences in self-esteem have found that men have higher self-esteem than women”
-Wiebke Bleidorn
And this isn’t just one study. Hundreds and thousands of studies have been done comparing men and women to figure out who has more self-esteem.
Surprisingly, every time the results have been the same — Men have more self-esteem than women.
In fact, when I typed on Google ‘studies on self-esteem between men and women’, here is what I found. Zoom this picture and sit with it for a moment.
The question still remains WHY?
Why are women more insecure or less confident than men?
Are WOMEN Not Good Enough?
If you compare any two things or people, to declare something or someone better, that person/thing should have more or higher qualities than the other — to be declared as a winner.
So if our question is — why are women more insecure then does that mean, women are not as good as men, or do women not have higher qualities than men?
Let’s see, shall we?
What A Man Can Do:
I am not a man but taking only our ‘natural’ qualities into account, here is what men can do that a woman cannot:
- Men can pee standing (trust me, it’s a blessing especially when you want to use a public toilet)
- Men can produce sperm that has the capacity to create a life.
Other than these two, men have no other natural quality that a woman doesn’t. Correct me if I am wrong.
What A Woman Can Do:
Now, let’s see women’s natural qualities. Oh, and I suggest grabbing a cup of coffee, it’s going to be a long list.
- Before they can even understand the world, they are supposed to bleed for the rest of their lives — 5 days a month with pain, fatigue, no control over their mood, and hunger. As per research, on average, a woman spends about 7 years menstruating during her lifetime.
- Women take ‘that’ sperm and convert it into a life. Their tummy grows to the size of two large footballs. Nine months of constant discomfort, pain, fatigue, almost every part of the body swallowing.
- Giving birth to a living breathing human from in between their legs. The same legs are supposed to be hidden as they represent ‘shame’ as per some religions and cultures. And might I add, there is no pain greater than giving birth that humanity has known to date.
- Feeding that same child from their breast is also a very painful process. These are the same breasts that men have lusted over and in general, society finds, shameful to be seen.
- Leaving her entire family and identity behind to take someone else’s name, restart a new life with this new name, and somehow, manage to make everyone happy.
So, if I compare, women can do more than men. And those bald guys on the internet who say men are physically much stronger than women, I have a question for them,
If men are physically stronger than women, how come God chose women to go through periods, childbirth, and breastfeeding — all in my experience, and as proven by research physically painful?
Why didn’t God choose men if men are physically stronger than women?
Or maybe, it’s just one of those things that was repeated to women so they take it as a fact, a truth.
Anyway, this is not a feminist-inspired blog. This is a blog where I will prove why women are dumber than men.
Imagine going through your entire life enduring physical pain with a smile on your face, that too from the age of 13 and still believing that men are stronger than you (women), one has to be a completely dumb doll to believe that, right?
Now, let’s get into some reality, shall we?
The Process of Making Women Dumb:
No one is born dumb. We are born neutral. But one can either be made smarter, or dumber.
Society makes sure that they nurture dumb women.
Why?
This is not any sort of attack or hate speech on men. But since time immemorial, men have tried their best to make women believe that they are dumber, and only as good as they look.
How?
Virginia Woolf, the classic author and the mother of feminism as per me had published a book called ‘A Room of One’s Own.’
In this book, Virginia refers to this book written by the French writer Claude-Étienne Savary, “The Natural Character and the Inferiority of Women”, to show us how women were made to feel inferior and stupid so it was easier for men to rule over them, and make women believe that forget about dreaming big, they are designed to be weak.
But that’s not the case anymore, is it?
In fact, now when you type books on women’s inferiority, you will get a result like this:
Surprising, isn’t it? How the world went from writing books on why women are born inferior to now writing books on why women are not inferior but are actually better than men in many areas.
Then why am I talking about the ‘nurturing’ a generation of ‘dumb’ women?
Let me explain.
You see, back in the 80s or before, it was easier to control women and keep making them believe that they were as good as the guy they married to. To make sure, women keep believing they are just pretty objects, there were books like “The Natural Character and the Inferiority of Women”, “The Biology of Women”, “The Male and Female: A Study of the Sexes in the Animal World”, “The Psychology of Women”, and “The Descent of Woman.”
With enough books on how women are inferior to men, they manipulated women into believing that they were not good enough to dream or achieve.
It’s what Joseph Goebbels, the Nazi Minister of Propaganda said,
“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.”
But the world has changed. You cannot publish a book like this now, can you? Even if you do, women won’t stop to read and believe in it. Hence, they needed a new way. A new method. A new hidden-invisible technique that cannot be labeled as ‘misogynist’ yet is enough to make women believe that they are, in fact, only as good as they look.
Unfortunately, men are not the only ones to invent or promote this new technique. In fact, men have taken the back seat, women are driving themselves to a point of complete insanity and insecurity.
How?
By repeating the same lie again and again, we have to look perfect.
The new method to keep women dumb and insecure is to sell a perfect body and skin image.
- You have to have skin like a Korean.
- Eyelashes like an Arab.
- Hair like an Indian.
- Waist likes a Chinese woman.
- The fashion sense of a rich Italian woman.
- Hair color is either blond like an American or brunette like an English.
And you cannot have hair on any part of your body. You have to have hair-free skin like an infant which is completely impossible but you have to achieve that by waxing your arms and legs, shaving your face, trimming your eyebrows every week, and making sure that you never, even if you die, don’t have underarms hair. It’s all common and natural for men. But on women? God forbid.
It’s because of this reason, the makeup industry is valued at $500 billion and is expected to continue growing, driven by demand in emerging markets, as well as innovations in skincare, and beauty products.
But why is it so bad? So what if women want to look pretty? How will it make them dumb? Can they be pretty and smart?
Remember that old saying, Beauty with brain?
I wonder, why is it only used on women as if women can either be beautiful or intelligent. If she is both, it’s an exception that must be worshipped.
You see, that is another problem. Women trying to be everything. Trying to be enough yet never reaching the finish line. This is the primary reason why women are so burned out today.
But the reason why it’s bad for women to be so ‘beauty’ focused is because it makes them dumb. It diverts their attention from their future, from what truly matters. While women keep looking at the mirror and find faults, men go ahead and achieve what they desire.
Why?
Because pick any series or movie, it’s always the most beautiful woman that gets picked up. The girl with frizzy hair or glasses who is silent and focused on her studies is shown as a ‘boring one’ who by the mid-show gets a whole new revamp and suddenly she has long smooth open hair, no glasses, wears ‘sexy’ clothes and now every man wants her. Remember, that movie The Devil Wears Prada starring Anne Hathaway?
Women have been, subconsciously, manipulated to keep their focus on their beauty. To look perfect. To look so beautiful that every man desires them. So they don’t feel like they are not beautiful enough.
It angers me that women, especially young girls are basing their value or worth on how many men find them attractive. And if men don’t, they suddenly feel less confident and more insecure.
An article published in the Guardian on the report by the charity Girlguiding suggests that,
‘A growing number of girls and young women say they are unhappy with the way they look and more 16- to 18-year-olds feel less positive about life generally.’
Imagine being 16 and being so obsessed with your looks that you feel less positive about your own life when, in fact, this is your age to dream, laugh, explore your curiosity, study different books and fields, and learn new languages and skills.
I had a friend in college. She recently messaged me to ask if I can get on a call with her as she needs some advice. I said, of course. On call, she said, ‘Renuka, I have so many insecurities, I don’t think I am enough.’
Everyone can have insecurities, right? So what’s a big deal?
The big deal was that she was the most beautiful woman I know. She had such a way of walking, sitting, and dressing that looking at her, you would feel not good enough. From her hair to her body, everything was picture-perfect. Not only that, but she was also the sweetest person ever.
And yet, she was insecure.
This is how women become and remain dumb.
When I was in college, I was approached by so many guys that I cannot tell you. And some of them were completely stupid. Like they wore the worst clothes they could find and they would walk if there was a spider in their pants and they didn’t even know how to talk properly. Yet, they had the guts to approach one of the most popular girls in college. Why?
Because men don’t feel as insecure or not good enough. They have enough confidence to believe that if they want something or someone, they can go for it without first looking at themselves.
Women on the other hand are taught to look at themselves for everything. There are so many women who think they don’t deserve true love because they are fat or have acne on their faces.
And acne reminds me of another cool example of how women become dumb.
When I Became Dumb:
Since I was a child, I was compared for my looks. Some called me black — black-er than my cousins. Some called me fat. Some said I didn’t have good facial features.
Yet, my focus was on my studies after high school. I started loving the thought of having a bright future that I forgot about how I looked. Even when I got a skin infection when I was still in college and I had a big ugly spot on my face, it didn’t matter to me.
I suffered from that skin infection for five years. No medication worked. Five years of ugly spots all over my body. Yet…I was happy with a book in my hand.
Until…
Until recently, I came across a concept called ‘shaving your face’ for that clear skin. Every woman on the internet was shaving her facial hair. They would spray something on their face which would then highlight the little air that every woman has on the face. Then, they would shave their entire face to show, that if you shave face, you will get this beautiful clear baby-like skin.
I watched those videos so many times on my Instagram feed that for a while, I couldn’t pass a mirror without zooming in, and finding those little hair on my face. I felt ugly. I wanted that hair to be gone. I wanted that clear skin.
Then, thanks to my travel because of work, my diet went down the drain and I got acne on my face. I felt uglier. So much so that I was ready to deprive myself of good food. At least 5x a day, I would look in the mirror and wish I didn’t have acne and facial hair.
I told my closest friend and she said, if you are so insecure then just shave your face. And I said, ‘But if I do it, soon after I will find something else to be insecure about. How many things will I improve or work on?’
But why am I telling you this?
Because, while I got obsessed with the facial hair that I never knew I had on my face, I kept thinking about it. When I met new women, I would look at their faces closely to see if they too had facial hair. If most women don’t shave, then it’s okay.
The thing is before becoming obsessed with my not-so-perfect face, I was obsessed with books and learning. My mind used to be a storehouse of creative ideas. Randomly, I would often start working on something new that would turn out extraordinary. I was a woman with ideas and dreams.
Then, I became a woman who was insecure. Someone who didn’t feel good enough.
This was the time, I couldn’t think of topics to write articles on. I thought I didn’t know much or have nothing new to add. While before, I would keep listing down new ideas and concepts on my notes app on my mobile. And every idea would make me feel like a billion-dollar. Like this idea was life-changing.
Do you see the difference?
How does a woman become dumb?
This is how I became dumb, for a while. I hated myself in those days. I was so sad about how I looked that I had no idea, no dream to work on. Somehow, all my thoughts kept landing on those facial hair that I thought were too ugly and man-like, which by the way are the most common and natural thing.
Today, this is society’s weapon of keeping far away from their dreams. To keep them focused on their looks so much so that the amount of beauty they have on their face decides how far they can go in life.
It’s not that women are less intelligent than men. In fact, here is an article that proves that women are better than men in these things.
- better learners
- higher IQs
- better at handling the stress of a job interview
- far more likely than men to talk through their problems.
- greater bosses
In fact, I challenge you to search for the ‘female-led countries’ and you will find the countries where women are in power are happiest and most peaceful.
Then, why do women, not just as per data, and research but also, in their day-to-day lives feel insecure and not good enough?
Because this is how they have been holding us back.
Women are made to believe that,
They have to look perfect. And just when you think, you have hit the nail. The brands come up with a solution to a problem that never existed. And tadda! Normal women find another thing on their faces or bodies that needs fixing.
It’s heartbreaking to see how the female influencers are so comfortable with selling us, your daughters, and you, an image that is not possible for a natural human being. But as long as it makes them money, they have no problem.
I wonder, is that why they say, ‘Women are women’s biggest enemy.’
Conclusion; Let’s Un-Become Dumb:
I don’t write articles that are so dense in research and data. I like to speak from heart to heart.
Yet, I spent three hours today to find all this data to show my fellow women how we all are manipulated and taught to stay dumb.
Women are the force of life. For every important work, God chose women. I am not saying women are better than men. I am only saying, women are important.
This superior that created the entire world, from mountains to beaches, chose us for the important work. We are literally the goddess on earth yet….we are shrinking down to our physical beauty. Today, young girls are more focused on how ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’ they look than focusing on their careers or building a strong character that they can be proud of.
All thanks to our cheap cinema, and smut novels that made young women believe, as young as 14, that their job is to become ‘sexy’ for men than to become kind, loving, confident, smart, and fun for themselves.
Not just that, the more you think about your physical beauty, the less you think about what matters most in life. You forget about your dreams. You forget to chase your truth, your desires.
You forget to build a beautiful life for yourself rather focus on becoming beautiful for the world.
And there is no one more profitable than a woman who forgets her dreams and power for the brands and economy.
Like I did.
I forgot for a while that the hair on my face was normal. That I wasn’t supposed to look like a child. And I forgot that my writing mattered most to me. I forgot to think about the things that excited me. I forgot to sit down and study my mind. I forgot to sit and connect the dots of physiology and build ideas and concepts that can be ground-breaking. I forgot my dreams. I forgot myself. And this is how, for a while, I became a dumb woman. A woman who was dumber than a man.
I have gone through this period so now I know what young woman feels when they look into the mirror. The sad thing is, the picture of perfection is sold to you to an extent that no matter what I say, you will find some flaw in you.
But the good thing is, you can always choose the voice of your dreams than the empty echo of your insecurities. You can remind yourself that you are not here to be pretty for the male gaze. You are not here to serve men as a pretty scene.
We, women, are here for ourselves. Let’s chase our dreams and desires. Let’s plan trips to Italy Germany and India to see the beauty of the world rather than trying hard to be beautiful for the world.
Let’s teach young girls with our actions that what matters is — studying, being kind, reading, gardening, walking, and exercising for fun and good health not for a sexy body, cooking because it’s a life skill not because that’s women should do, speaking softly but not letting anyone silence or overpower us, working on ideas that sound exciting, dressing for ourselves, laughing so hard even if it doesn’t look classy or pretty, having values and principles as a foundation of confidence, not a face that is painted to look confident.
Let us all remember that we are here to live for ourselves. This is the only time in history when that has become possible so let’s not waste by becoming dumber. But let’s raise our standards so high that you know you are worth more than anything this world can offer you. Let your eyes sparkle with the brightness of your dreams and your mind be focused on the life you wish to create for yourself.
Let us not be inferior or dumb.
Let’s live with hearts and minds open to our own dreams.
