Why Bother? Committing to the Challenge Of Love
Love Can Seem Like A Risk, but It’s One Worth Taking
For many of us, relationships are difficult. They bring up old wounds and depending on how they end, can leave us broken and struggling to rebuild ourselves.
Up to 60% of the population are thought to have the secure attachment style but that figure doesn’t include me. Whilst secure individuals are more likely to be comfortable in their authentic expression, have healthy boundaries, trust others, and feel safe in their relationships, for us who make up the other 40%, this is unlikely the case.
In this, I’ve always found relationships challenging. I’ve done a lot of work over the years to find comfort and stability in myself but all that goes out the window when I get into a romantic relationship.
Old fears I thought I’d overcome rear their head and I become doubtful of myself again. If you were previously wounded in a relationship, you might get triggered only when faced with another one.
Currently going through a breakup, I’ve contemplated the point of investing in relationships if I’m only going to be broken down when they end.
Why put my emotional stability on the line only for it to be thrown to the wolves, leaving me with the work of returning…
