Why You Always Fall for Unavailable Partners
A Deep Dive Into Self-Esteem, Toxic Relationships, and How We Get Stuck
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One of my biggest aha! moments came in understanding the psychological underpinnings of unavailable relationships (including hot/cold dynamics, situationships, etc). It is also one of my favourite things to talk about.
Why can we feel compelled to chase after people who are walking red flags? Why can we get stuck on someone for months on end, even when there is writing on the wall that tells us it isn’t working? Why do we make up fantasies in our mind about how great things would be… if only we were chosen?
The above was my reality. I wasted so much time with my mind in the gutter on barely functioning situationships.
I learned the lesson the hard way, as many of us do.
If you’re stuck in a partially unavailable/hot & cold dynamic right now then let’s have some compassion for this. It sucks. It can hurt, but there is a way out.
In my opinion, life gets much easier when we understand why it is we do what we do. By understanding how our brains work we can give language to experiences that often leave us…
