Why You Should Go On a Date with Yourself

Have You Considered Getting to Know Yourself Better?

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Have You Considered Getting to Know Yourself Better?

Everyone wants to show off on social media that they are in a happy loving relationship or that they have a thriving social life. Engagements, weddings, and dates with their significant other is the highlight reel. We bombard our social media feeds with pictures of parties and nights out with friends. On the other hand, the pandemic has forced a lot of us to be alone.

Taking the time to be alone and truly getting to know yourself is valuable. Getting that time to spend with yourself is just as important as socializing and spending time with others.

We are afraid to be alone because we don’t want to be alone with our thoughts. We need our friends, families, and significant others to save us from our own enemy — our mind.

It’s important to strike a balance between spending the time with yourself, taking it slow, or in other words, dating yourself is just as important as it is to spend time with others in a social setting, and here is why — the more you go on dates with yourself the more you get to know yourself better and the more you start knowing yourself better the more you love yourself. Let’s see how that works.

The more you go on dates with yourself the more you get to know yourself better and the more you start knowing yourself better the more you love yourself.

The Importance of Getting to Know Yourself

Human beings are social creatures by nature. We are not meant to be alone and die alone. We know spending too much time alone can be detrimental to our mental health as well. This pandemic has shown us introverts that even we need our dose of socializing.

When alone you are forced to face that dreaded reality of being the only movie-goer watching the film in your mind play over and over again. Is it a comedy? A thriller? A horror film? Or is it just a blurry screen? Whether it’s stressing about the past, the present, or the future. It’s all in your mind.

When alone, you are forced to watch this movie and finally come to your own conclusion about it. You are forced to analyze these thoughts and figure out solutions for your various mini stressors.

“Why did he say that to me?” — “Why did I say that?” — “I should have said this instead.” — “Oh no I only have $50 left in my account.” — “Why am I so fat?” — “Why am I not masculine enough?” — “I hate myself.” — “I can never do anything right..” & so on and so forth…you get the picture.

After sitting through all these thoughts that will bring you down it’s time to pick yourself up and distract your mind with positive habits and feelings. Positive feelings should come from within, intrinsic motivation, and not from external factors. Being alone will force you to love yourself because all you got is you. The intrinsic motivation will start creeping up on its own the more you realize the only person you have to impress is you.

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Spending Time Alone Gives You a Sense of Independence and Confidence

As uncomfortable as it may be to spend time alone with your thoughts it will benefit you in the long run. When we are alone we gain this sense of independence and confidence because we are no longer attached to anyone or anything. We realize we don’t need anyone else to be happy. Instead, we want someone to share our own happiness with.

We realize we don’t need anyone else to be happy. Instead, we want someone to share our own happiness with.

When alone you understand more about yourself, you have time to self-regulate your emotions and gain more self-awareness. You start seeing what your likes and dislikes are in more depth. You have time to develop new interests and hobbies as well.

Through reflective practice, we can reflect on past difficult scenarios we have been in to figure out how we could do things differently in the future. Self-confidence comes easier when you are not reacting as opposed to just being.

When in a social circle we don’t realize we are reacting to someone else’s behavior and thoughts without the time to truly introspect. When alone we get that chance to just be ourselves completely.

You become more self-sufficient when alone. You don’t rely on anyone but yourself to navigate routes to get to places or get things done for you because you suck it up and do it anyway. This will hone skills that you didn’t know you had.

Self-Date Ideas

Take a walk outside and enjoy that cool breeze alone. Go enjoy that movie at the theatre alone, do your nails without a friend, eat out, and have your favorite glass of wine by yourself.

Write in a journal with a cup of coffee alone and read that book you’ve always been wanting to read. You can go to a cheap buffet, a coffee shop with a good book, go stargazing, go shopping, or go for a jog.

Why not take up a new hobby alone and meet new people? Be a tourist in your own city and explore parts of the city you have never been to. There are a lot of things you can do once you decide to go on a date with yourself.

So book a date with yourself now and have fun learning about the most important person in your life, you.

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