Keep Your Friendship Like ‘IT’ Used To Be
“If you find someone worth holding on to, never, ever, let them go.”
I just rewatched the whole IT movies again, and the one that hit me hard is how the Losers were able to keep their friendship for more than 27 years. It’s like they never left each other.
I am 23 years old, and I too hope that I can keep my friendship fresh like them.
Following the story, we see the Loser club has been hanging out together in and after school. They were bullied and different than the other kids, making them like an outcast. That’s where they found themselves something in common, so they helped each other from the bullies, and being able to stand to what’s right. Thus, the Losers Club was born.
Sure, it sucks being called a loser. Who would want to be called that? However, the kids found the meaning behind the name. They were able to motivate themselves with that name.
See, the thing about being a loser is, you don’t have anything to lose. So, Be true. Be brave. Stand. Believe.
Who would’ve thought a horror thriller movie can deliver a powerful message from a negative word? I think this is also why the book and movie was such a success, it wasn’t just a typical jump-scare entertainment. It’s a story about tested friendship in a horrible situation, and accepting each other for who they are and not what they are.
Simon Sinek once said that if one found a purpose in life, they would feel a satisfaction. This also applies in friendship, there is a reason why we hang out with the people whom we are friends with for more than ten years. If it’s because of money, that friendship wouldn’t last forever. The character lasts a lifetime, that’s why we want to stay friends with them.
That’s why after 27 years, the Losers club was able to still be themselves after reuniting. From the looks of it, they didn’t even keep in contact until IT came back, yet they were still able to keep the energy together.
Like the quote, they stayed true and believe in each other. Eddie and Richie were still able to insult one another like when they were kids, all the members were able to laugh at one another and just act like children again. Just like they used to.
What we can learn is that we have to remember who was with us in our hard times. They are the ones worth sticking for because loyalty is not easy to be found. So what if you aren’t popular or rich?
Smaller circle of friends is better. They are the ones who are willing to listen and stay with you, we see these a lot in entertainments: Star Wars, Harry Potter, How I Met Your Mother, etc. Even the original cast members of the Avengers are best friends until today.
I wrote about why a smaller circle of friends is better here:
So everything starts with your circle. Who are you close with and why? Did they see you for who you are?
Most importantly, are you willing to stick with them, and are they willing to do the same with you? If they do, then they are worth keeping for.
I remember having my own ‘Loser’ club, but thankfully we didn’t experience the extreme moment like they did. We were just there for each other.
We had the same interest (something in common), we helped each other and just did everything together. Today, even when we are countries apart, we were able to act like little kids when we met again and be happy.
I hope we all find our own circle and keep the friendship fresh, just like it used to be. Friends come and go, but the closest one in our hearts never left.