Potential vs. Truth

I want to emblaze on a topic that is left in the dark far too frequently. This topic being, falling for potential. Now, potential means showing compacity to become or develop into something in the FUTURE. In layman’s terms this means almost, but not quite. Participating in this type of behavior only leads to mental distress. We break our own hearts when we choose potential over truth. Think of it this way; Probable vs. Possible. Probable meaning: there is a very high chance or likelihood that something might occur and possible meaning: it might happen or might not happen, but there’s no certainty of the outcome. I urge you to stop banking on ambiguity and place reliance on the truth. I cannot stress this enough; your mental health is in jeopardy when you make the choice to stumble for potential.

Now, to paint a picture for you, falling for potential looks like: ignoring red flags because we have this set vision on what that person could be in the future and making excuses for this person’s behavior/ lack of capability to give you what you need. In translation this means you’re dancing between reality and a fool’s paradise. For further elaboration, a fool’s paradise is a state of happiness that is solely based on a person not knowing about or denying the existence of potential trouble.

For illustration, I have fallen victim to choosing potential over truth. I was so hung up on this fantasy of how he had the potential to be everything needed IF he made some modifications. Here’s the thing though, he had no desire to engage in metamorphosis. Yet, I continued to hang on to this fantasy. After a year of dating with no purpose, I couldn’t take it anymore, so we split. He may have looked the part but as far as being a protector, provider etc. he was not capable.

All I am saying is, it’s a choice to participate in something as mentally taxing as falling for a person’s potential. I want to encourage you to always pick the truth when its being revealed to you. Stop falling for what someone COULD BE in the future, instead of who they actually are right now.