MORE ON MARRIAGE
We first see the advantages and disadvantages of living with The Parents….
The couple gets some amount of help with daily chores, learn /pick up finer points of managing domestic front, probably the company of others would make the girl feel very comfortable. BUT on the flip side they couple hardly gets any privacy. The new bride would probably get compared to other women in the household, may feel she needs to compete with them. It would tell on the boy too, he’d probably feel torn between the wife and mother.
Where as if the newly weds were to immediately move into a house of their own, they’d have all the privacy but could be at a disadvantage of not learning some customs and not getting family support when needed. They’d have the pleasure of setting up things from scratch but may need to work on a tight budget.
To live with parents and the extended family and then wean off, move out would be a great situation and a good balance too.
WHAT WOULD EACH OF THE PARTNERS PROBABLY LOOK FOR IN A MARRIAGE
Companionship, that I’d say would be one of the first thing, someone to share everything with. Spend the rest of their life with someone you love. Humans being social animals feel the need to be living with other humans thus marriage is one of the options practiced. Invariably the spouse becomes the best friend one has, though initially each one tries their best to impress the other, but few years into the relationship and the most vulnerable side is exposed.
A ‘successful’ marriage is one where every shade of grey is accepted, supported, and loved. If there are certain flaws the partners compensate for the same. But if there are certain socially unacceptable faults the spouse would put everything in his/her ability to bring about a change in the partner. We would generally observe the spouses stand up for each other in all circumstances in front of others, the suggestions for change happen only behind closed doors.
AND WHEN THERE IS A FIGHT
They say you fight with people closest to you. So, well fights do happen specially since the two are most of the time together, more than fights I’d say disagreements. Disagreements which get way too serious and end up as fights. Minor ones are good too for the relationship, but too frequent and too huge ones do end up in separation. Specially if there is physical abuse involved.
But otherwise how would a fight ‘end’?
Generally, with one person apologising, but the other partner needs to accept the apology also. There are many who would accept it but later at every given opportunity remind their partner, or get the feeling of being superior, and this would do no good to the relationship.
