#SundayReads №1: From Vague to Clear: Overcoming Trauma and Toxicity to have clear communication
Communication is an essential part of our lives. We communicate with each other to share ideas, feelings, and information. However, the way we communicate can have a huge impact on how our messages are interpreted. It’s important to consider the implications of both types of communication.
Messages with multiple interpretations may be more creative and open-ended, allowing for greater flexibility in understanding the message. However, they can also be confusing and lead to misunderstandings if not carefully crafted. On the other hand, clear communication eliminates ambiguity by providing clear instructions and expectations that leave little room for misunderstanding.
Have you ever thought about whether you tend towards ambiguous communication? When people ask you questions, are your answers specific or vague? Do you feel a slight knot in your stomach when individuals are direct? If you’re not sure, take a moment to reflect on your past conversations and messages.
There are three major reasons why you may have adopted a vague communication style:
- The need to always be right:
You may be afraid of making mistakes and being held accountable for them. This communication style allows you to avoid taking responsibility for any errors and blame the listener’s interpretation instead. However, it can lead to a lack of trust and respect from others.
Solution: Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and being accountable for them is a sign of strength and integrity.
2. Toxic organizational culture:
Your workplace may have a culture that highlights mistakes and leaves little room for compassion. This can make you feel hesitant to speak up and lead to vague communication.
Solution: To create a culture of clear communication, compassionate leadership plays a key role. Seniors should make juniors comfortable in speaking up about organizational issues.
3. Traumatic experiences:
You may have experienced situations where your clear communication landed you in trouble and no one stood by you. This can lead to a fear of speaking up and a preference for vague communication.
Solution: Admire the courage and confidence you had when you spoke with clarity. Remember the positive outcomes that resulted from clear communication and let go of the fear.
Transform from vague to clear communication with intention:
Vague communication can be seen as a sign of dishonesty or lack of confidence, which can damage relationships and trust. Therefore, it is important to be clear and direct when communicating with others to maintain healthy relationships and trust.
Clear communication is essential for any successful relationship or business. It helps to ensure that everyone involved is on the same page and can work together effectively.
Setting the right intention is key, as it creates a positive environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their thoughts and opinions without fear of judgement. Additionally, being aware of cultural differences can help create an even more productive dialogue between parties. By adopting clear communication from the start, we can ensure that our relationships and businesses are built on trust and understanding.
Before every meeting, take a few moments to set a clear intention.
Release any past trauma and negative emotions to enter the next meeting with a fresh perspective. This can help you stay focused on the task at hand, be more productive, and ultimately lead to better outcomes for everyone involved.
By taking this simple step before each meeting, you can ensure that you are in the best possible position to make progress and move forward.
