The Annoying Side of Yes
We are offered a hundreds of options daily.
So many options in fact that many of them we don’t ever realize are offers. Like do you want a muffin with the coffee or not. Wear that shirt or the other one. Take leftovers for lunch or buy something. Yes or No.
There are other harder choices too. For instance do you have time to take on that project at work. Does it make sense to put your 7-year-old in baseball this summer with practices on the other side of town two-evenings a week. How much of disruption or positive impact will that project or commitment have?
For hundreds of choices in our daily lives we can choose between yes and no. When it comes to becoming successful at something, you have to say yes. That is the annoying part of success that I’ll explain to you.
Say Yes until you can afford to say no.
Hi, I’m Rebecca and this is my publication CliffView Life. I am going to be dissecting all 45 lessons in a YouTube video by Dan Martell: I’m 45. If you’re in your 20s or 30s, watch this.
Dan Martell is a successful entrepreneur. He is now dedicated to teaching others so they can achieve their dreams just as he has — if they are willing to put in the work. In this video, he shares and briefly explains 45 lessons he found on his way to the success he has today.
Why? Why am I going to go through every single one of the 45 lessons Dan shares? So I can learn and pass on what I have learned to you.
You have to say yes so you can learn what works for you and doesn’t work. You have to say yes so you can challenge yourself.
The Annoyance of “Yes I can do that.”
Everyday we are given choices that we can choose to do or not to do. Many of those choices will not have a major impact on our lives. Yet when it comes to mastering something so well you are the expert at it you have to say yes to every opportunity.
Saying yes to every opportunity means you can learn what works for you and does not work for you. Just because Alex does this thing this way doesn’t mean it will work for you. You can build processes and methods that will set you apart from others.
You can learn what you like and don’t like. This isn’t just the methods of producing a result it is gaining experience in learning what kind of people you like to work with.
When you say yes to every opportunity you can learn what takes too much energy and time away from other projects you are needed on. Or it may even be the other way around. You can learn that this project is something that you enjoy doing and would like to do more of.
Dan is recommending to say yes to every opportunity because it gives you the chance to learn and build your skillset. You learn what kind of people, projects and topics you like working with. And sometimes they are the projects you thought you’d never do.
You Can Still Say No
Even when you are starting out you can say no to what you know is a no.
There are things we know from our experiences, interests and abilities that we know it will not end well. We know it’s not going to end well for us or the client.
It could be in a subject area we know we do not know enough about to produce a result we are proud of. The time that we’d have to put into learning that new material will be to the detriment of what we already can produce well. It could be a subject that we don’t want to do. Or it could be with someone or some group that we do not want to work with.
Just Don’t Say No Too Fast
You can say no. But don’t say no too fast when starting out. That thing you want to say no to because it's way too far out of your comfort zone might be the fuel you need to propel yourself to your next chapter.
That stage is only too big until you go for it.
I have a laser engraver. On the side I do engraving work as a hobby and creative outlet. Currently I only engrave wood products. The engraver I have is capable of engraving metal. I have been asked to engrave high end metal tumblers.
Even though I when I started engraving I said I wasn’t interested in engraving metal. I am now considering it. This is an opportunity to learn new skills.
I could have easily said “No. I don’t engrave metal objects.” Instead I decided I would learn and go for it because it could be an new material that I can regularly work with. So the next step before I fully commit to engraving expensive tumblers is I have to figure out how to do it with sacrificial mugs.
The stage is only too big until you go for it.
Say yes to learning.
Only say no to what you have tried and know it’s a no.
Even though I qualify for payments on my stories I have decided to stop. I want to help those who are like me. Who are on the starting line and need someone to show them it is possible. I want them to have access to stories that can inspire them to keep going. If you are able and wish to support me, you can do so through buymeacoffee.com/cliffviewlife. Thank you! (Yes, I do drink coffee!)
