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The Best Self-Improvement Advice in Four Words: It's Not About You

A lesson learned from answering the suicide hotline

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I picked up the hotline and heard someone choking back tears. I could barely make out the words.

"I don't know what to do," she said. My husband screams at me constantly. I know I'm a screw-up, but even though I try not to make him mad, it doesn't help."




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Ilana Rabinowitz

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Writing wellness, family, and the future. Author of Inside Therapy and Mountains are Mountains.

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