Top Two Relationship Killers: Suffocation and Triangulation

No need to hide your pillows or lock up your triangular ruler; the suffocation and triangulation I’m talking about today are less lethal — but can definitely permanently damage your relationship.

Here’s a quick look at ways to spot these relationship habits (in you or your partner) — plus a few quick and easy fixes to start seeing progress in these areas practically overnight.

Suffocation

Every relationship has moments when someone is more needy than usual. Stress of any kind, something that brings up an old unhealed issue. Those are normal in the ebb and flow of relationships.

More dangerous is when you or your beloved have to be together at all times. Have to be doing the same thing, always wanting to know where the other is and what they’re doing or thinking. On the phone together, FaceTime, WhatsApp, texting nonstop, or addicted to the Find my Phone app….

Constant observation and monitoring can quickly turn a relationship into a lab experiment rather than a nurturing experience.

Solution: In his book, “The Prophet,” Kahlil Gibran has a line that has always stuck with me: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.”

• When you need time to yourself, own it. Declare it. Double check with…