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Friendship

What does this “intimacy menu” idea really mean for me?A week ago I came up with my description of the intimacy I enjoy and offer, which I described to my friends as like a menu: we can indulge in these pleasures when we both wish to. One of my friends mentioned that she thought the menu felt noble to her. What she meant by that was that she liked the clarity. For me, the word “noble” triggered a different association, unrelated to what she was saying.

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Just Cuddle?

Can a guy spend a night just “cuddling” a girl and resist making a sexual advance?A friend of mine asked in reaction to a cuddling app, “Guys, honestly, how many of you would spend a night just ‘cuddling’ a girl and resist making a sexual advance?” Well, I can only speak for myself personally. I like to let a woman know that, if she wants me to, I will tie her comfortably down to the bed and spend several hours listening to her moans of pleasure as she lies completely and absolutely helpless under my hands.

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Good With Women

I met up with a friend the other day and she mentioned that I seemed to be good with women, and asked how I had learned how to be that way.This surprised me a little. Was I good with women? Yet? I mean, I work on my personal growth, and practice being authentic, and push through my fears to broadcast my desires, and decide on what choices I will offer and what I don’t offer… and giving away hugs at art festivals has helped me understand body language. So it makes sense, if I keep practicing at something, eventually, sooner or later, I’ll become good at it.

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Poly, Love, Romance, and Security

Happiness in Personal Relationships

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Direct Communication

And the perils of politeness

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Intimacy

Who I want to be intimate with, and what I offer.

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Desire

My own personal desire map: conversation, touch, bondage, making love.

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Serenity Bondage

What is it about the mind-body connection that bondage can create a feeling of profound relaxation and serenity?

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