When we are at play, or as we adults would like to call it — having fun, we also are open. Receptive. Engaged and willing. We are in the present moment. But this doesn’t just happen in sandboxes, it happens everywhere. In our family life, with our chil…
Fun, play and being in the present moment may help us in more ways than at work.
The theory, and the prevailing science, seem to indicate that when we can appreciate what these internal “parts” are trying to speak to us about, we are more able to access one or more of these “C’s” — namely Compassion, Curiosity, Calm, Clarity, Courage, Connectedness, Confidence, Creativity — we are more our Selves, or one might say we can show up with our whole selves and we can access deeper abilities and performance than we otherwise can.
Accessing these C’s is dependent on us allowing these inner parts we have to speak up and be heard. Of course, just like a child who wants ice cream instead of dinner, we dont have to do everything our inward parts urge us to do, but we should pay attention to what they are driving us toward. They are often hints toward subconscious success. Maybe you indeed have to work now… but maybe some time off and a good book would actually help you work better in a few hours or tomorrow.
The opposite is true, of course, as well. Stifling these or setting them aside as trifles or lifehacks or ways people just manipulate you or others will eventually drive someone to less and less connection and less willingness to take on risk, be vulnerable (yes, that’s a link to Brené Brown’s TED Talk) and communicate effectively with others.
In the workplace people’s abilities to access (or their lack of skill in accessing) these C’s of Self can dramatically impact work performance, company and team productivity, morale and even employee retention (spoiler-alert: Its not the bad ones that leave)
Oh, and if all this sounds a little like the Pixar movie Inside Out, it should.