How insecurities can lead to seeking acceptance from people
After 30 Years, I Realised Seeking People’s Acceptance Is Toxic!
Guys do it, girls do it, and it’s ruining our relationships
Life can become difficult when we aren’t socially accepted within a community. Instead of blaming our ancestors for their inherent desire to belong to a tribe, I often question how can I stop wanting to belong?
There is a need … a desire to seek other people’s acceptance. Especially when we feel their acceptance reassures us of what we lack within.
You know that feeling when you’re new at work, seeking a relationship with your new co-workers? It’s a beautiful act to interact with your colleagues.
The start of a genuine curiosity and good intentions begins well, yet after some time, it (often) transforms into a toxic behaviour.
Eight years ago, I noticed it in myself when I was acquainted with my colleagues. I saw how cool they were and wanted their acceptance.
Such desire for their acceptance appeared braggy and fake. Why? Because I was telling them how awesome I am instead of them judging me by my merits, whether they’d be my personality traits or work qualifications.
