Two Perspectives on Spiritual Celibacy

I was asked a question about celibacy on the Facebook page for my book Spiritual Polyamory. My response is below…

Question:
I think celibacy is important for spiritual growth. What do you think about that?

Answer:
That’s an interesting topic, and views seem to vary greatly depending on the teaching.

Based on my personal experience I believe it is important to be able to be celibate so that we have the capacity to be self-contained. If we are not comfortable with celibacy then we may feel compelled to always be in a relationship, or in the poly realm, relationships…which may lead to incompatible partners. If we can be comfortable without sex, we can take our time and only partner when there’s a truly compatible connection.

On the flip side, clinging to rigid dogma about celibacy can also stunt one’s personal growth. If one is in a healthy relationship where sex would lead to deeper intimacy, it’s useful to not avoid sex due to an ideology. Almost everyone carries sexual wounds, so celibacy can be used by the ego to avoid healing, and protect one’s self from feeling vulnerable.

So, like much of life, it’s all about right timing.

Peace,
Chris

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