It’s Not You

My Year in Review (2018)

When the expectations of others on you might really be about themselves.

“If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.” ― Yogi Bhajan

REWRITE the quote

Restate this wise saying in your own words here. You can keep it general OR you may have a certain person/situation in mind. You can rewrite the quote to use the person and situation in a way to remind yourself that you are not truly the focus of their expectations.

If the way other’s respond to us is a reflection into their own relationship with themselves, then our work is two-fold. Is it not to realize that LOVE is for ourselves? We are not more holy or healthy despising who we are.

Love your neighbor as yourself.
(could we also say: Love yourself or you won’t love your neighbor.)

The second part of the work is for us to take personally everything others do and say. Imagine what would be different if we took on this view of others. What might change in our workplaces? What might change in our homes? What might change with our friendships? With even those who seem to be our enemies? What if we didn’t first respond in the defensive?

There is a simple reality that has been shared with me over the years.

When you walk into a room, no one is thinking about you?

More than likely, people are obsessing about themselves.

The next several articles will include the content from the two evenings we prepared/encountered over two Sundays as a community. But you can download the full PDF.