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It’s Not Up To You (Straight People) To Say How I Should Feel

Understanding a little about your place of speech as a non-member of the LGBT community

TRAVEL STORIES BY GABE
Counter Arts
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6 min readJun 15, 2024

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On the bus to Emerald Park, an amusement park located in the town of Kilbrew, County Meath, Ireland, I had a small but unpleasant argument with a straight friend who insisted on telling me, an effeminate gay man, how I should feel about being in certain places.

We were a group of 4. It was me, this friend who is a straight woman and a gay couple, and we were talking about places we all like to go for fun, and the argument started when I mentioned how I don’t like attending sports events because of the great number of straight men and how just in general, I don’t feel safe as a gay man in these events.

I brought up the scenario of a soccer match, a sports event where the majority of attendees are straight men who portray a sense of masculinity that I find extremely toxic and unsafe. I mentioned the countless incidents of homophobia in sports and how only “real men” are welcomed in soccer.

To see the bigger picture of how much homophobia there is in soccer — of course, without firstly considering the fact that reportedly there are less than 10 known gay professional footballers…

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TRAVEL STORIES BY GABE
Counter Arts

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