How We Love (On Identifying & Breaking Patterns)

Craig Gross
Oct 15 · 9 min read

June 15, 2019

Every adult, to one degree or another, functions from negative patterns that were ingrained in them during childhood. To break free from those patterns — to establish new, healthy ways of being — we first need to identify what they are.

In other words: we’re diving headfirst into the deep end.

If you’ve made it this far into the Craig Brain journey with me, then you’ve likely gathered how much of an investment I make in self-discovery. Personality tests. The DISC. The Enneagram. Myers-Briggs. Kolbe. Etc.

I love tools. I’ve dedicated much of my life to learning how to wield the ones I’ve managed to get my hands on and to create usable tools for others to use, as well.

It’s like falling in love again.

This has been the best, sweetest time we’ve experienced in our entire marriage.

How We Love was the catalyst for it all. I can’t recommend it highly enough. It helped us discover who we were before pain and neglect and success and ego and life happened, layered up on top of the little boy and girl buried beneath it all.

Do the work.

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Craig Brain

Craig Brain is not your brain or my brain, but neither must unity be predicated upon uniformity. This is an invitation for you to take a peek inside the gross (pun intended), squishy, alien matter inside of my brain.

Craig Gross

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Craig Brain

Craig Brain is not your brain or my brain, but neither must unity be predicated upon uniformity. This is an invitation for you to take a peek inside the gross (pun intended), squishy, alien matter inside of my brain.

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