Beware of Honeytraps in Life! How to pivot like a Honeybee!! — Part-1
A loser counts one’s losses and hides behind mediocrity.
A winner, on the other hand, does things differently.
To begin with, a winner wizens oneself upto present situation through a reality check.
A winner counts one's blessings and channelizes them into opportunities.
In doing so, a winner commits one's thoughts and efforts towards success.
In relation to this context, here are a few things to ponder as a food for thought:
How much time you do spend
- organizing your future?
- Appreciating others and yourself?
- Helping others without expecting anything in return?
Or, life is just going along, in daily mundane and glitzy pursuits…
And remember, all that glitters is not Gold!
We all know this famous quote which signifies things that appear apparently flattering, but deceive later.
They are so absorbing that life is all about enjoying the flattering part of itsy-bitsy stuff only.
Or, you will have realized in hindsight when its too little, too late to do anything that life isn’t going good.
Here lies the no. 1 fallacy which catches us all unawares.
The fallacy is the itsy-bitsy nature of things that won’t let you feel fulfilled with respect to how they complement you in a really beneficial way in long term.
What’s more relevant is how you feel about the quality of your life as a whole.
If you are either carried away or one who feels lost in such things, Hearty welcome to the booby trapped world of Honeytraps!
Many of us may not actually know what those Honeytraps are. In fact, The word Honeytrap means a stratagem in which an attractive person or object entices another person into revealing information or doing something unwise.
Nevertheless, the honeytraps of life are not much different from what the word literally means. And, its common to feel lost due to getting stuck in these honeytraps of life — either to survive or thrive.
Let’s get it right without further ado! Let’s know how the honeytraps influence us. Here is the story of Beauty and Ugliness to help us figure it out:
Beauty and Ugliness — the good friends!
In good old days, both Beauty and Ugliness used to be very good friends. Beauty is always elegantly dressed in beautiful garments while Ugliness used to wear dirty, skimpy attires.
Once, they went to a beautiful beach to enjoy wonderful moments. Both of them dropped their clothes on the seashore and got busy in enjoying the tumultuous waves of the ocean. They both lost track of how long they are surfing along the sea waves.
At this point, Ugliness noticed that Beauty is still lost in herself. So, it quietly went back to the sea shore and stole the cloths of Beauty. Then it quietly left the beach, without waiting for Beauty.
After a while, Beauty realized that she’s alone in the sea and looked out for Ugliness. Alas! Ugliness draped in Beauty’s elegant robes already left the beach long ago! Now, Beauty has no other option but to wear Ugliness’ skimpy, torn out clothes!
From then on wards, Ugliness always appeared in beautiful clothes whereas Beauty has apparently become Ugliness, wearing ugly or dirty clothes.
The story of Beauty and Ugliness gives us the right background to delve deeper into honeytraps of life.
Before we dive in further, let’s understand the challenge involved in overcoming them.
The narrative gets complicated here due to the invisible nature of honeytraps.
So, the hidden challenge is to find out and sustain the motivation to overcome the influence of these invisible honeytraps.
The efforts needed to spot them within the dark alleys of our minds and eliminate or at least minimize their influences thereafter is a herculean endeavor!
Remember what famous American motivation speaker Dave Ramsey said — ”The enemy of “the best” is not “the worst.” The enemy of “the best” is “just fine.”
To understand why, we need to grasp what motivation means.
Some wise soul commented motivation is nothing but motive for action.
Motive is the “ugly” or scary aspect of not letting the honeytraps influence us during our journey of self development. It calls for strong resolve, clarity of purpose i.e., True North and high vibration energy levels along the way.
And Action is always “beautiful” i.e., thrilling like a roller coaster ride that happens when we are intensely focused on our avowed objective of self development in our lives. They involve consistent efforts in making good habits and breaking bad habits.
Now, both these parts of motivation — motive as well as action used to be good friends, just like beauty and ugliness in good old days.
But the situation is not so rosy in these present times! To understand why, let’s know what the honeytraps actually are!
The Honeytraps: 6P’s
The honeytraps in life are the 6P’s — viz., Power, Position, Pleasure, Possessions, Prejudices and Peer pressure.
Their cumulative impact is quite significant during the journey of our lives. Each and everyone of them have the power to enslave us life long.
Let’s now look deeper at the Honeytrap-ish influence of these 6P’s in our lives.
It usually starts with Peer pressure during early childhood, followed by Pleasure instincts and Possessions of others in our environment. As we grow older, Prejudices, Positions and Power set their deeper roots in our personality to strengthen their hold on us.
Peer pressure starts with siblings at home and extends to friends and contacts in the neighborhood. This is largely invisible and difficult to detect while it exerts significant influence on our psyche.
Possessions include the “assets” like gadgets, ornaments, clothes, properties etc. Usually, they are expensive in value and exert their subtle influence on our emotions without our knowledge.
Pleasure refers to things we crave for instant gratification, e.g. good, tasty food, entertainment, habits like smoking, drinking alcohol etc. They are easy to get habituated but very difficult to get rid off.
Position refers to the social status we acquire through profession, business etc. This is different from stature which comes from our character and integrity.
Prejudices refer to opinions not based on reasons or actual experiences. They are the most subtle and invisible since they are our beliefs and we often believe we are right.
And Power, the ultimate corrupter, flows from the influence we wield in our society through at least one or all of the above.
All these 6P’s have their pros and cons. When properly utilized, they enhance our stature as a worthy individual contributing value to the well being of our society.
But once they get under our skin, the trouble starts brewing!
It might sound counter-intuitive or paradoxical that the very 6P’s which are so essential to one’s identity might be one’s nemesis as well.
The point here is the impact of their contribution to one’s happy progress in life.
If pursuit of one of the 6P’s leads to friction or fissures in other areas of life, its time reviewing one’s intentions w.r.to its worthiness. In other words, the outcomes shall be contributing to one’s overall happiness along with progress.
As we can see in the picture, we’re like the typical ant stuck in the honeytraps of 6P’s in life. Just like the ant, we have all its innate abilities to work hard, work in teams, build our future etc.
These qualities, howsoever good they are, lose all their power when we succumb to inducements of the 6P’s.
So, having been part of our subconscious conditioning over time, these honeytraps of 6P’s often become invisible. And as the popular saying goes, out of sight is out of mind!
However, the crucial difference is the wisdom to realize the honeytraps we are entrenched in and foresee the change in direction we need to pursue.
Let’s now apply the story’s background to motive and action parts of motivation to set the context straight.
Even though action is the real beauty, the honeytraps of 6P’s influenced it to be ugly. Meaning, our actions meandered in the wrong direction of pursuing the honeytraps of 6P’s, losing track of our avowed objective of self development.
And Motive on its part, instead of overcoming the honey-traps of 6P’s, succumbed to the influence of 6P’s honey-traps to appear apparently beautiful.
So, instead of becoming better versions of ourselves, our motives are now hopelessly lost in the pursuit of 6P’s.
Effectively, the tables have turned upside down on our motivation!!
Together, both motive and action thus lost the sense of overall direction while pursuing personal growth in the realms of Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual aspects of life.
As a result, life has become a rat race of one-upmanship over others under the negative influence of the 6P’s of honeytraps.
In the next blog, we’ll delve deeper into the various forms of the negative influence to discern the big picture of humongous damage happening to the core of our beings. Stay tuned!