Why the hell would women envy men?

Who is going to change the tire or take out the trash if you weren’t around?

For quite some time now, women have proven to be as capable as our male counterparts. In fact, there are several women from all genres who are powerful and successful. They continue to pave the way for successive generations. However, even these powerhouse moguls want to unwind and escape their hustle at times.

Double standard

We all know that society has made certain male behaviors excusable and acceptable. Meanwhile, the same behaviors are discouraged for women. For example, planning dinner for the family if something unforeseen happens, it’s a priority for a woman. Men usually don’t have to worry if dinner is ready on time. If a woman misses too many family dinners it is considered neglect.

Another example; if a man prioritizes his career over his family, they are considered hard-working men. We excuse the behavior and say we understand. When women make their careers a priority, instead of their families, they are unappreciative. When Saturday morning rolls around, the no good, cold-hearted heffas are the hot topic at the barbershop.

We envy you

I have spoken to several women about this issue and I can assure you thre is a common consensus amongst the team. We wish we could be you for at least one day of our lives.

We envy the fact that men, particularly married men, don’t have to find a sitter when they go out, because wifey got it! Occasionally, we wish we could just make an appointment without making prior arrangements for our family. Why do we have you constantly prove that we dont have want to ditch our responsibility? Sometimes, the idea of making arrangements, is enough to say never mind I won’t get my hair done, I’ll do it myself.

We envy the fact that you can just sit on the couch and watch football and your favorite shows with little to no interruption. The kids never ask you anything, in fact, they will walk past you and come find us when they need things. No, it’s not your fault and no one is placing blame. This is an explanation to let you know why we give you the side-eye you from time to time. Volunteer, get up and offer. Imagine!

What we wish for?

Let’s be clear, we love our roles as mom and wife, after all, we spent our whole lives dreaming of this moment. No one is saying we don’t want the marriage, the home or kids.

Here are some of the things we do want

  1. We wish we could decompress for an hour or two before starting dinner, homework, and whatever duty we are responsible for.
  2. We wish you would see our fatigue and say, “bae go lay down I got the kids tonight”.
  3. We wish you could pick out our clothes or have the bath ran when we come home.

I am not suggesting we switch roles and you become a house-dad or house-husband. If that’s your situation, good for you!

Yes, we could ask for “me time”, or “to give us a break”. However, the guilt that comes with asking for a moment, just makes us want to do it ourselves. We just suck it up, smile and discuss this with our girlfriends who are experiencing the same issues. Ocassionally this includes that same kind of convo you have at the barbershop.

Solution

Honestly, I can’t give you a easy solution. I know, I know, why did I write it huh? What I can say is the same break that women often to give to you, we would be grateful if you gave us a break and maybe even envy you less! There may even be a reward in it for you.

Disclaimer: This is totally not an article about male bashing because women do need men in our lives even if we don’t admit it. Who is going to change the tire or take out the trash if you weren’t around? Also, let me say, we know this isn’t everyone’s situation.

Hey, I look forward to this part! Make it clap hunni. See you guys soon with more of you favorite thing, me!

Angela

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