My Children Have Paws

5 Tips to survive Mother’s Day

Katy Cable
Apr 25 · 6 min read

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In honor of Mother’s Day, I’d like to dedicate this blog to those special, often overlooked women whose “children have paws.”

My heart goes out to women who anticipate having a difficult time on this holiday. Covid may keep you from seeing your mother or your family from visiting you. There may be awkward family dynamics and unmet expectations making “Martyr’s Day” seem more apropos. I hope sharing my story and personal survival tips will turn things around and make it a SPECIAL day!

Mother’s Day a few years ago, I was approaching “empty-nester” status, wondering what I would do with my life. My daughter was graduating high school then heading off to college. If that wasn’t enough, my beloved Pug Raisin made his final departure for Rainbow Bridge.

For the last 18 years, I’d been consumed as a stay-at-home “MOM-ager” to my daughter who had been acting professionally since infancy. Very soon I would be putting her on a plane to attend college clear across the country. The time had come to get off the runway and let her take flight.

When my daughter had left for school a few months later, I began battling severe depression. I sat in my quiet, clean, empty house firing out job resumes through a waterfall of tears! I missed my daughter and Raisin terribly. I even found myself missing things I’d always complained about like dog hair covering everything, dirty dishes left out, my daughter “borrowing” my favorite clothes, and endless high-school booster meetings.

In an effort to keep busy and get out of the house, I checked my ego at the sliding glass doors of PetSmart and took a part-time job consulting pet parents. My job no longer required high-heels and designer attire, but sneakers, yoga pants, a name tag, and a lanyard. Gone were the days I was taking meetings with top brass managers. The managers I was working side-by-side with now, were the same age as my daughter.

Ironically the company I represented was a new pet food company called “NULO and at that moment I truly felt I had hit a “ NEW-LOW” and my best days were behind me. I doubted I would last through the first pay period.

Much to my surprise, I was having the time of my life at my new job. Working with pet owners fulfilled me in ways no other career ever had. It did nothing however to quell my desire for another dog. -Just the opposite. I was so desperate to fill the huge hole in my heart Raisin left, I began an obsessive search at every rescue and shelter. Had my husband not threatened divorce if I took in a dog without his approval, I would’ve snatched up any three-legged, frothing-at-the-mouth, rabid beast needing a home.

The more I searched, the more frustrated and disappointed I got. My husband quickly grew tired of my insanity so I agreed to call off the hunt until after the holidays and join him on a business trip. -Something I hadn’t been able to do since complimentary meals and free checked bags still existed on flights.

No sooner had we pulled up to our hotel when I received a text alert. It was a photo of a pug who was the spitting image of Raisin as a pup. Strangely enough, the pup was in a shelter located not two miles away from where we were staying. I was just certain it was a sign from God! — Kismet! I pushed hubby out the door for his meeting and secretly raced over to the shelter.

When I arrived, his cage was empty and he was listed “unavailable!” -It was yet another disappointment! As I went to leave I heard yelping from another cage. I was sure a dog was injured and rushed over to help. When I arrived at the scene, I noticed a tiny black pug sticking her paw through the kennel bars yelping for me. My heart melted. I knew then and there she was my new dog. I pet her and assured her I would be back to take her home.

As luck would have it, I was able to pull some strings and adopt what was then a very sick little pup. It was apparent, though just a puppy herself, she had just had a litter. The shelter said she’d been found on the side of a desert road and was likely a breeder dog who had never been out of a crate. She was just terrified of everything. I named her “little black Olive” and promised her that life was about to drastically change.

For me, the cure for depression was this new dog. Olive made me happier than I’d been since everyone had “flown-the-coup!” I was having the time of my life getting to know this darling new (and previously abused) pug.

No sooner did I find my perfect new pet, I got offered the “dream job” I’d applied for a few months prior. With Olive at my side and the ability to work in sneakers, I passed on the 80 hour work weeks and non-stop corporate demands. -And not for one second have I regretted my decision.

The takeaway of my story is: KEEP THE FAITH! Be optimistic and hopeful. And most importantly, don’t rule out something that involves wearing comfy shoes, a name tag, and a lanyard. You might find you’re happier, healthier, and far more fulfilled if you fall off the corporate ladder and try something completely new.

If Mother’s Day is getting you down, consider this, most mothers claim “CHILDCARE” is the #1 thing they want on their official holiday. 🤣 Here’s a few other things you can do to feel better:

1. Indulge in a 5-minute pity party. Cry, scream, throw something, and feel sorry for yourself.- YOU GET 5 MINUTES!

2. Get out and count your blessings. Write or think of 20 things you’re grateful for. Over-achievers or severely depressed, go through the entire alphabet and find a blessing for each letter. Extra credit: Call ANY mother quarantined at home with young toddlers or home-schooling kids over this pandemic.

3. Treat yourself to something nice. Better yet, treat yourself to a special day. Visit, or grab take-out from your favorite restaurant. Buy yourself a present. SPLURGE on YOU! Buy yourself flowers, candy, a nice bottle of wine, how about a pair of cute “pet mom” socks with a picture of your beloved fur baby? Whatever makes you happy. Start a new tradition honoring what a wonderful “Pet Mom” you are!

4. Honor special women who are mothers to PETS! Why not plan your own little party. Not up for a big production, there are some fun, unique gifts for pet moms. I love running around in my personalized “dog mom” socks. Or how about a unique “quarantine mask” with a cute design honoring your pet? Dog is Good has lots of darling dog mom products that will make you happy. If you’re short on cash, offer to dog sit or walk a friend’s dog.

5. Don’t have family or friends with pets, how about volunteering some time to an animal shelter or rescue. Call ahead and find out about their Covid19 policies first, but many shelters and rescues are allowing fostering and adoptions.

Getting out and doing for others or spending time with an animal will definitely make you feel much better. (-If it doesn’t I will personally refund your misery!😜) Who knows maybe you’ll come home with a new “fur baby” of your own. A dog will love you unconditionally in ways a mother or child never can.

Happy Mother’s Day! -Whether it’s to a child by birth, blood, or choice. And Happy Mother’s Day to those special moms whose children have paws! 🐾Pugs & Kisses -Katy

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Originally published at https://www.weeklyrunt.com.

Katy Cable

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I love PUGS, cappuccinos and bad carbs. Spent my life as an actress, writer and now pet activist. Here’s “A little Kibble” if your children have paws!

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Katy Cable

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I love PUGS, cappuccinos and bad carbs. Spent my life as an actress, writer and now pet activist. Here’s “A little Kibble” if your children have paws!

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The home for anything animal. Tips, tricks, and talks about animal welfare and the human-animal bond.

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