Here’s Why Older Heterosexual Women Have Better Sex

Many men finally focus on mutual pleasure, not just their own

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Here’s how the narrative goes — if you’re a woman of menopausal age or older, you’re going to lose your libido.

When society keeps pushing negative narratives about aging as a woman, of course that could lead a woman — even a woman who has enjoyed sex throughout her life — to feel less sexy and then avoid sex, or perhaps not enjoy it as much because she’s focusing on what’s “wrong” with her aging body instead of all the ways her body gives her pleasure.

But what if older women don’t lose their sex drive? What if, in fact, their sex lives become more expansive as they age?

That’s a narrative we rarely hear, but one that’s worth exploring.

It’s one Linn J Sandberg, an associate professor in gender studies at Södertörn University, has explored. Actually, she bluntly asks, How do older people fuck?

Sandberg’s focus has been on older heterosexual men and how they navigate masculinity and sexuality — especially how they continue to express their sexuality positively so they’re not seen as a “dirty old man” for wanting to be sexual. But if there’s an older heterosexual man interested in sex, then there’s going to be a heterosexual woman…