I Should Be Used to Change by Now
Especially since it will never stop
I can no longer count the number of times my life changed over the years. This happens to all of us, and as we age, it’s interesting to look back and see how our lives have zigged and zagged. There are the major milestones, of course. The graduations, the weddings, and the birth of your kids are good examples. Then there are the things you didn’t see coming, like heartbreak, accidents, and illnesses.
All of this adds up and can deeply affect us in our later years, in good and bad ways. It could have led to a good relationship you have now. For me, the third time is the charm when it comes to marriage. In my first two, I learned a great deal about what not to do, but I also learned how to communicate with my current wife. I wouldn’t have figured it out without the rough times that came before.
A motorcycle accident 30 years ago left me with nerve damage in one hand that aches from time to time and can also make pouring a glass of wine difficult, but it hasn’t diminished the taste of a good merlot.
The thing is, I wouldn’t change any of it, even the bad times. One big reason my second marriage failed was because we moved to a new part of the country every couple of years for my career, yet I’m grateful for the insights and perspectives that came with…
