I’m Taking my Mom out of Long-Term-Care so She Can be Cared for at Home

It only took one unfortunate event to convince me to do this.

Marilyn Flower
Crow’s Feet

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A woman in a wheelchair gets a hug from a nurse in a white uniform
Photo by Kzenon, courtesy of Canva.com

Sooner or later, everyone’s story has an unfortunate event or two…The solution, of course, is to stay as far away from the world as possible and lead a safe, simple life. ~ Daniel Handler

The nurse’s aide came in to change my mom’s “incontinence garment.” You know, diaper. While she finished up I said,Mom, are your legs cold? Do you want to put some (regular long) pants on?”

The aide didn’t give her a chance to respond. She said, “Oh, no. I’m keeping Miss Adele like this so she’s easy to change. Putting pants on her is too much work on a weekend when I have 13 other patients and it’s just me here.”

My eyes bugged out.

I couldn’t believe she said that. Out loud. To a family member. In front of her 94-year-old patient.

Would she have said the same thing if it was her mother?

I was gracious. And said something about how there was an extra blanket if she got cold. But inside I was seething. Smoke billowed out my ears.

So much for long-term care at Wexner Heritage Village.

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Marilyn Flower
Crow’s Feet

Writer, sacred fool, improviser, avid reader, novel forthcoming, soul collage facilitator, prayer warrior and did I say writer? https://linktr.ee/marilynflower