Mom Just Went on Hospice — Now We Have a Decision To Make

Go to Long Term Care or be cared for at home

Marilyn Flower
Crow’s Feet

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Fortunately, there’s a care conference tomorrow morning.

My sister and I will get input from Mom’s team about how she’s doing, what she needs, and hopefully a sense of what we can expect.

At the moment, she’s not actively dying.

But she is wasting away. I just learned her weight is down to 85.6 pounds. Last I heard, she was at 93, and that’s way too low. Her normal weight was about 110. And she was skinny then!

At the moment, she’s in a rehab unit. They transferred her there when they discharged her from the hospital.

However, she is not able to do rehab.

She has no energy. Her body’s exhausted and all she wants to do is sleep. She barely opens her eyes when people come in to talk with her.

Fortunately, she does respond. She engages for a few minutes, recognizes her friends and family, and appreciates their visits. But then she closes her eyes and goes back inside.

Carrie, our health advocate spoke to her about rehab vs hospice. Or, as she put it, making her as comfortable as possible without pushing her to do things. She opted for that. No surprise.

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Marilyn Flower
Crow’s Feet

Writer, sacred fool, improviser, avid reader, novel forthcoming, soul collage facilitator, prayer warrior and did I say writer? https://linktr.ee/marilynflower