Crow’s Feet Writing Prompt: Loss of Freedom

We Took Away Dad’s Car Keys

It was clear Dad needed to stop driving, but he resisted moving to the passenger seat.

Kathleen Murphy
Crow’s Feet
Published in
6 min readJan 28, 2024

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My father-in-law always insisted I call him Dad. It was a reflection of his sweet and gentle nature. But one day — the day he lost his right to drive— he was not so sweet and gentle.

“Those jerks are discriminating against me!” he railed to my husband and me. “And it’s just because of my age!”

The “jerks” were the assessors at the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV), who had informed Dad he’d failed his driver’s test.

As Dad continued to rant, we listened patiently. It was hard to see him so upset, but we were grateful his fury wasn’t pointed at us.

The fact was, we were the ones responsible. We tipped off the DMV to Dad’s increasingly erratic driving.

A long, nearly perfect record

For more than 70 years, Dad was an excellent driver. Except for a couple of minor fender benders, his record was flawless.

Cars were Dad’s hobby. An Air Force veteran and professional engineer, he loved to tinker with all things mechanical, especially vintage Mustangs. To Dad, who grew…

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Kathleen Murphy
Crow’s Feet

Health writer and essayist offering insights into physical and emotional wellness and successful aging. Subscribe: https://kathleenamurphy.medium.com/subscribe