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What It’s Like to Date Later In Life
Rather than look for a serious monogamous relationship, some just want to have fun with one or several sexual partners
Unlike many men his age, Brian Gross, 49, is happy to date women his age or even older, mostly because he doesn’t want children and he doesn’t want to even consider having to have that kind of conversation with a younger woman.
In a personal essay in Business Insider, Gross says once he decided having kids was off the table, his approach to dating became different:
“It’s not just the idea of having kids I’ve let go as I have gotten older — I also no longer feel forced to have a serious relationship. When I was younger and on the fence about having kids, I unconsciously needed a relationship if children were going to be in my future. But now that I’m decidedly not having children and my age has eased, the pressure to be in a relationship has eased. Although I enjoy dating, it’s not prioritized like it was in the past. I know what I want moving forward, and I am excited about the future. I like my life, work, hobbies, and aspirations. If someone comes along and we fit, fantastic. But it’s not a need like it used to be. I’m more content than I’ve ever been in my life.”