Who Will Take Care of Me if I Have No Children?

Mary McGrath
Crow’s Feet
Published in
3 min readAug 29, 2022

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And being gay makes it harder…

We are both fairly healthy for now…Photo by McGrath

I read a thought-provoking article the other day about the challenges of aging as a member of the LGBTQ community. In the article, Laura Neikrug addresses many of the issues that plague our community as we age, including the fact that many of us are childless.

For most straight couples, children have provided a security blanket for people during their senior years, but for those of us who don’t have kids, we are forced to look at other alternatives for elder care. It’s an issue I don’t want to think about, but now that I am approaching my 70th birthday, I’m more concerned.

We are getting more fragile. Things are harder for us to do. And it has escalated in recent years.

For the past three years, my partner and I have cared for her 93-year-old mother who has lived with us. During that time, her health deteriorated, and unfortunately, so has ours. What was once easy a few years ago, is somewhat difficult now.

If Erika’s mother were to fall, neither of us could get her off the floor. We can’t afford to put our health in jeopardy by caring for her, because we have our issues now. We are now looking at other avenues for her down the road, as her living with us has become too difficult.

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Mary McGrath
Crow’s Feet

Top writer in humor, short stories, writing, advice and poetry. She’s written for Newsweek, Wall St. Journal, Good Housekeeping, and Chicken Soup for the Soul.