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Women Who Live Alone For One Year Experience This Miracle

Call me crazy, but I have science on my side

Lisa S. Gerard
Crow’s Feet: Life As We Age
5 min readJan 19, 2025

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Words hurtle my way — from bitch, crazy, cold, and snobby to amazing, strong, and resilient. Inaccurate, all.

Except for the tag resilient, I earned that one.

And, crazy is subjective which leaves room for error.

Six years ago, a friend looked deep into my eyes, desperately seeking understanding that I left my 25-year marriage.

Her head rocked side to side in bewilderment.

“You’re crazy. I could never leave my husband without another man lined up at this age. How can you live alone?”

I confuse people, always have and always will, I suppose. Enforcing boundaries equates to being cold and bitchy. Saying no to the offer of a lifetime, not, translates to crazy.

My stomach flip-flopped for years. I finally understood that what someone requires from me might not be theirs to have.

I never told my friend I was scared. Can I do life without a man, a partner, a confidant? Frequent bouts of breathless fear overtook me in those early days.

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Crow’s Feet: Life As We Age
Crow’s Feet: Life As We Age

Published in Crow’s Feet: Life As We Age

“The longer I live, the more beautiful life becomes.” (Frank Lloyd Wright) Non-fiction pieces, personal essays and occasional poems that explore how we feel about how we age and offer tips for getting the most out of life.

Lisa S. Gerard
Lisa S. Gerard

Written by Lisa S. Gerard

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