Steven T.

“I think that, anytime our habits are disrupted, we recover some kind of creativity. I think the thing that we learned was first of all, people can be remarkably productive whenever they are supported, whenever adaptations can be made in the direction of accommodating their real life, and also that we figured as we move into this new era and we couldn’t do stuff the old way that sometimes how we interacted was significant in our sense of belonging meaning as the content of our conversations, the substance of our discussions.”

“If you go on YouTube and you search for videos about “no friends” there is a trend of mainly younger males that are taking to YouTube to say “I’m a 28, 29, 32 year old person and I don’t have any friends” and they are obviously trying everything they can to connect. As they tell their stories, it’s usually the anxiety they feel about being judged, it puts a human face on the statistics that we’re seeing about how epidemic loneliness is.”

“The pressure to deliver, more and more innovation or more and more cost cutting, leads to people working from a part of their brain that’s under stress and inclined to transaction and doing things that seem efficient by the standards of capitalism, but they aren’t the way people are used to negotiating, learning together, making decisions, finding motivation and meaning, and so one of the questions that I’ve had for a long time in my work with companies is what are the small ways, the habits of connection, the micro experiences that unleash the experience of connection, meanings that are the antidote to loneliness.”

“I think it’s also important that if people have mental health challenges or challenges outside of work that are affecting their ability to contribute to the team, that we, I think all of you as leaders know that you want your folks to be equipped, to make referrals, you know, where does someone go that is blocked right now because of something difficult? Just listening to what someone would say for a while and letting them know you hear it and that the feeling part of you understands that what they’re going through is tough. It’s hard to imagine a situation in which that would get us in trouble.”

Aaron H.

“I think we’ve also just created a work culture where a lot of people don’t feel a sense of belonging, a lot of people also just don’t feel comfortable and the term that’s used is psychological safety. They don’t feel comfortable being themselves, and when people don’t feel comfortable being themselves, it is really hard to actually connect with someone because you’re not connecting with anyone, there’s nothing there to connect with if you’re not yourself”

“There’s also a little bit of a false, hybrid definition, I think it’s a combination of people wanting, you know, partially in and partially out of the office. We have such a strong desire, especially in this country for autonomy. I think also as an answer is don’t tell me what to do. I want the flexibility, maybe I’ll come to the office every day, but like, I want that choice. I don’t want to be told I have to do that because when I’m seeing companies say, that’s great, we’ll do a hybrid. You need to be in the office Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and they’re being like, hell no, that’s not what I want. So it’s not actually a hybrid. It’s more, I want autonomy and freedom to do what I want to do. “

“So when I first thought about purpose, I thought about it as a mathematical formula of, you know, your fulfillment comes from your relationships, plus your impact, plus your growth. You combine those, and you have that when it comes to realize what it really is. It’s your impact and your growth summed, multiplied by your relationships, which is to say, if you have zero relationships but you’re making a huge impact and you’re growing, you’re actually not fulfilled or feeling purpose.”

“I think the heart of coaching is about fundamentally helping someone solve their own issues and helping listen to validate who people are, but I think we’ve built a society where our value is defined by solving problems for other people and that we do that for ourselves.”

Eugene S.

“It’s also eye-opening to think about how, if you have no relationships, I think it is probably true for too many that, if there’s no one to share with, or to even talk about it with, did the trees fall in the woods?”

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