It isn’t easy to be a woman, but I love being one and will always do.

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I have always been discriminated,

and have been infused with pain.

I have struggled as a girl,

to live in this monstrous world.

I have been called a bitch,

for not following society’s rules.

I have had painful periods,

that people see with disgust.

People see me as an object,

and consider me not worth anything.

They want me to stay at home and cook,

not change the world for the good.

I am taught to be always scared,

for the fear of being assaulted.

The society sees me as a toy,

to be played with by the boys.


An unpopular analysis about a Hip-Hop giant

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How do we reconcile love for a Hip-Hop giant with the legacy of misogynoir his music leaves behind? I’m not sure, but we have to try. Since Earl Simmons passed away, I’ve been feeling conflicted. As a tween, I loved listening to his music. But then it hit me, “What you bitches want?” Trying to vibe with the same music is different now that I’m a grown, Black woman. One of DMX’s hit songs, like so many others, characterizes women as ignorant, annoying, needy, and promiscuous.

I fucks with these hoes from a distance

The instant they start to catch…

Lately I’ve just been shutting down…

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Guilty on all three counts.

I should be ecstatic. I should feel vindicated. At the very least, I ought to be relieved that yet another murderer won’t be walking free among us.

I feel a whole lot of nothing. A small victory has been won, but it feels like a single drop pulled from an ocean.

George Floyd was the last Black person I saw die. I realized last year that I cannot watch anymore. I’ve never thought of myself as a person suffering from trauma, but what Black person isn’t? I get heart palpitations every time I drive past…

Derek Chauvin was found guilty today, but there is still work to be done

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I am the opposite of a social butterfly, especially when it comes to social media. I deleted two of my social media accounts recently, and only made a Twitter account within the last week.

Suffice to say, I am usually unaware of breaking news and social events. I find things out a little late.

Today, about an hour after the verdict was delivered, I learned the results of Derek Chauvin’s trial for the murder of George Floyd.

Guilty, on all counts.

I quickly went to Twitter to see the reactions across the nation (after hastily following a few news accounts…

Back to normal, everybody

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Now that an entire graduating class of COVID-19 vaccines are rolling out in droves, it seems like the pandemic will finally begin to wind down in the near future. Longest two weeks of our lives, am I right?

Since this tumultuous nightmare is approaching the rearview mirror of our mind’s eye, allowing us all to return to business as usual, I feel we’re obligated to take stock of some things. Like, what have we learned from this once-in-a-lifetime experience? What does a return to normal really mean? …

Workout routines for all types and levels

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I have a love-hate relationship with fitness channels and influencers. In many ways, I think all of them are far too focused on weight loss and appearance goals. We live in a fatphobic society, and nothing exemplifies that more than health and fitness culture. At the same time, as someone who suffers from some horrendous health consequences if I don’t stay active, I’ve found myself relying on a lot of online fitness channels to stay active in quarantine.

So despite some misgivings, and definitely not without critical thought, I’ve built myself a library of fitness YouTubers that I rely on…

This is your role in “baby mama drama”.

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You knew what you were doing.

This was about you knowing she would outgrow you and making your investment before she could get the chance. This was about throwing yourself a lifeline. And you knew she loved you, so you knew she would keep it. You used her love for you against her like a weapon.

Wombs were not designed to be weaponized and yet the only reason your child is here is because you used sex as a weapon. You just couldn’t stand to watch her have her youth without you. So you locked her down with children.


Another child of color was shot in Chicago, and here’s what it teaches us

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[TW: police brutality, murder]

On Tuesday, April 13th, video footage was released by the Civilian Office of Police Accountability of Chicago showing the homicide of Adam Toledo at the hands of a Chicago Police Officer on March 29th, 2021. Toledo was 13 years old at the time of his death.

The video footage was procured from a body cam that the officer was wearing at the time of the confrontation. Based on this evidence, and a frame-by-frame review of the footage, the shot fired by the officer occurred just seconds after Toledo raised his hands and turned to face the…

America’s changing whether you’re ready or not

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When Tucker Carlson said, “you will not replace us” on Fox News, he added salt to a country still licking its wounds. He used his platform to express white grievances. People who believe in the replacement theory view diversity as an existential threat. Remember, white nationalists carrying tiki torches used the same rhetoric in Charlottesville. The term has become thick with meaning.

‘Antisemitic, racist and toxic’ is how the Anti-Defamation League’s CEO summed up Carlson’s rant, which he said echoed the ideology of mass shooters in El Paso, Christchurch, and Pittsburgh.(Ecarma, 2021)

The replacement theory is dangerous because it promotes…

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