5 Ways Shyness Can Make You More Likable

Far from being a flaw, shyness can make you more attractive and relatable

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1. Shy people don’t think they’re more important than others

2. Shy people are soothing and calming to be around

Don’t ever feel the need to pretend when you’re around me. If you don’t feel like talking, don’t talk. It doesn’t make me like you any less. In fact, it makes me feel even closer to you knowing that we can be real with each other and just not say anything sometimes.

3. Shy people tend to develop deeper friendships

4. Shy people understand the value of silence

5. Shy people tend to be very good listeners

If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments. Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

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Writer, editor, leftist, and feminist activist. Endlessly fascinated by the complexities of human minds and cultures. Currently completing my MA in Anthropology

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Writer, editor, leftist, and feminist activist. Endlessly fascinated by the complexities of human minds and cultures. Currently completing my MA in Anthropology

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A community of people who are curious to find out what others have already figured out // Curious is a new personal growth publication by The Startup (https://medium.com/swlh).

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